Giha Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Well, after my last post (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t216529/) nothing happened with her, she didn't try again. I felt really bad and like a moron I removed the block on Facebook and took a look at her profile..it appears that she has a new man in her life..she's beatiful as ever..she seems happy so that's good I guess I don't know why I did this, I feel so stupid. I just miss her so badly..It has been 7 months since I had any contact with her, and it felt so good talking to her.. I had no other relationship since she broke up with me, which I guess was not very helpful at forgeting her I feel as if I will never find this kind of love again, she was a perfect match for me..It's scary..I'm really afraid that this is the best life has to offer, even though I'm still pretty young.. Just needed to unload any maybe get some insights from some of you on what you think about this fear or my situation or whatever.. thanks
gaudi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Well you had done well, but a relapse is always a possibility, especially when they're throwing the old "breadcrumbs". What makes you think you can't do well again ?? How old are you mate ?? (if you don't mind me asking)
alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I feel as if I will never find this kind of love again... oh trust me you will
Author Giha Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Well you had done well, but a relapse is always a possibility, especially when they're throwing the old "breadcrumbs". What makes you think you can't do well again ?? How old are you mate ?? (if you don't mind me asking) What do you mean by relapse and breadcrumbs? heh sorry my english isn't too good And I prefer not to tell, don't wanna get judge for my age (though I have seen people younger than myself posting here).
gaudi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Well, (according to your other post) you had originally been in NC for a grand total of 7 months, but she got in touch and you responded....RELAPSE!!! Breadcrumbs is when they throw you little bits of hello/how are you/what you been upto/ you OK ?? We term it as Breadcumbs because that's exactly what it is, little bits for you to chew on and make sure you're still going to come pecking on what ever they throw you. It's normally a way to boost their own ego, making sure you're still there for them, no matter what. Don't be there for them. If they really want to know then they would be there for you. (and I'm 32 BTW)
Author Giha Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Oh, I see. Answering her gave me an idea of what a relapse feels like. NEVER AGAIN, hehe. That's why I told her we shouldn't talk anymore..if we did then she'd probably throw more of them "breadcrumbs", and I guess once you eat the first bit it's harder to stop. It's hard to keep her out of my mind though..hell of a lot of feelings flying around now..I guess it's only human.
Metal_Muffin Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I share your fear...only me and my ex prob were not the perfect couple but we loved each other..and im going through this stage at the moment where im scared that i wont find anyone else i was at such ease with...that ill love as much as him. Im 22...im a baby still in the grand scale of things and deep down im screaming at myself...your be fine, your find someone but it doesnt stop those intial feelings. I seem to be having this argument with myself almost daliy hehe. Its just about having a little faith in yourelf and your future. I have never forgotten my gram telling me though...long before my ex that your first love is never your true love...im starting to think she was right. Just dont give up x
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