so_mo34 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 so i really like this guy at work who i was seeing on/off. he is a player though and im pretty sure he just used me for sex as he seems to have no interest in seeing me anymore but will still grab my ass at work. he is always friendly to me at work but once in a while i get a cold vibe from him and it makes me a bit upset. so i mentioned that i get a cold vibe from him once in a while to my friend and my friend agreed with it and then she told him! so he comes up to me and says "so you think i'm cold?" and i explain it to him and apologize. i asked if he was mad and he said he wasn't, but i still feel bad. should i text him apologizing again or should i forget about it? it's my birthday today and he hasn't even texted me which really hurts my feelings.
Lucky_One Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You want to apologize for being honest about a man who uses you for sex and forgets your birthday? Did I read that right??
Peter Attis Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 No. You need to dump that zero and get you a hero!
boogieboy Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Youre not telling the whole story if you think you should say sorry for only calling him cold. Thats nothing to apologize for.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 turn this around on him. dont apologize, ignore him, act like he doesnt exist. he'll come running back to you...if thats what you truly want.
Vintage79 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I would forget about it, in particular since he's says it's no big deal. Moreover, from personal experiences when I get comments like that from some one, even if I get a sorry, it doesn't really fix any damage that may have been inflicted. You tell a story of potentially being taken advantage of, if you feel that way, just forget about the situation entirely. If you have feelings for him, which at least to me it sounds like you do, it might be worth saying sorry, just to see if it has any effect. Worst case scenario you'll be potentially smoothing situations at work.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Nope, you shouldn't apologize. In fact, if he was worth your time and energy you are dispensing on him, he would have been concerned as to why you find him cold, and trying to make it up to you. But since he isn't, and he has proved he isn't, he won't. Find a guy who is a million of him, he's a player like you said, and has probably moved on to someone else. Happy birthday btw Go celebrate and forget this dud!
OceanTropic Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You don't owe him any apology. Don't you see whats going on? He has you around his little finger, and you keep giving him attention! He loves this attention, otherwise why would he ask you if you think he is cold? He wants you to apologize, and make up for it with compliments. This guy is playing games. I can guarantee you that the moment you show absolutely no interest, and don't even lift your eyes to him when he walks by, he will be begging for even more of this attention.
sagetalk Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 im pretty sure he just used me for sex but will still grab my ass at work. but i still feel bad. it's my birthday today and he hasn't even texted me which really hurts my feelings. Unbelievable. What some of these loser guys get away with is just unbelievable. I will never get over how being physical with a women makes them bat crazy over a guy no matter how big of a loser the guy is. Have some respect for yourself and go find a real man.
Angel1111 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You might want to apologize for slamming his head into a wall the next time he grabs your behind. Other than that, I can't imagine why you would even consider apologizing to this numbskull.
Angel1111 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You want to apologize for being honest about a man who uses you for sex and forgets your birthday? Did I read that right?? :lmao:
Awesome Username Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I'm at a loss for words. This guy is a pig. I don't think he needs any sort of apology, whatsoever.
muse08 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Youre not telling the whole story if you think you should say sorry for only calling him cold. LOL, I actually believe her Boogie. Sometimes when we don't realize how much we're worth and that we deserve better treatment, we'll conjure up reasons to communicate with people who aren't even worthy of our attention. Truthfully, I've been guilty of it as well, but I'm learning... This clown that so_mo34 is speaking about doesn't even deserve her thought... You deserve, better so_mo34. I think you know that already. If you don't know, you betta ask somebody!
muse08 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 ... but once in a while i get a cold vibe from him and it makes me a bit upset... It may seem little to you, but what that is, is your instincts telling you to pay attention. We ignore our instincts all too often and get into a deep mess. Just pay attention to your instincts. You have them for a reason.
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