Elizabrary Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I'm doing all the right stuff- N/C- hung up on him when he called, staying as busy as I can, reading posts on here, reading frickin' self-help books- and I still feel terrible. I'm sick of feeling sad and empty over someone who treated me so badly for so long. I KNOW I'm better off without him, so why doesn't it feel that way? Maybe I'm rushing things- it's only been just over 2 weeks, but I'm frickin' miserable and want this to be over. I'm so desperate for relief from feeling terrible that I've been tempted to call him. I'm just so stubborn that (thankfully) I refuse to do it. Somebody help!:mad::mad:
imagine Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You need social contact. Join a club or volunteer for something (if you have the time).
LisaUk Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Hi, I know it's tough, but it's early days for you, don't be so hard on yourself. You were with this man a long time, you can't xpect yourself to be over him in two weeks, even if he has cheated, the fact is you remember him the way he was before. Give your heart a chance to catch up with your head.
tojaz Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Hi, I know it's tough, but it's early days for you, don't be so hard on yourself. You were with this man a long time, you can't xpect yourself to be over him in two weeks, even if he has cheated, the fact is you remember him the way he was before. Give your heart a chance to catch up with your head. Lisa gives sound advice! (as usual) sadly this isn't something you get over quickly, the effects will last years! I'm 9 months out and though I'm a damn sight better then i was, I still have my teary days and my why me days. They do get less and farther between as you go along, being here helps! TOJAZ
varaski Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You feel that way because of your negative thoughts. Negative thoughts breed neagtive emotions. Negative emotions breed negative actions. I'm sure you are replaying all of the bad things in your mind. How you were hurt, how he was insensitive. That type of thinking brings all of those feelings right back as if it were happening at that moment. Thats why people always say get busy, start doing, etc. Its not just to make you tired, its to get busy in the mind more than anything. Its hard to shut the old replay system off all by yourself and especially when you are sitting alone at home or laying in bed at night. Get busy soon, going out and doing. chances your mind will think about all of the new things and yu will be too tired to even lie in bed at night and sulk, you'll actually need rest and shortly go to sleep,lol. As I say this to you I'm eating these words as well. SKi
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