what do these texts mean?

[xyoungforeternityx]

ex boyfriend of 7 months (we ended things last friday as he admitted he was not over his ex, after I suspected he wasn't) text me 2 days after saying he doesn't know what to do. I asked him why?

 

His texts were: 'I really did enjoy being with you but I felt really low, not fed up with you, but I was thinking stupid things xxx'

 

I replied back asking what things he was thinking....

 

He replied: 'I was thinking I was still in love with my ex gf and that I always thought Id get back with her and thats what I wanted but what if I could have something more with you and I'm ruining it? I dont mean to mess you around and I apologise I just need to sort my head out xxx'

 

It wasnt anything I didnt know apart from what he said about me, which had made me think maybe we could have a second try after some time apart. I text back saying I understand and that I hope he figures it all out. that was the last I expected to here from him in a while but he text the next day

 

'I'm still in work, its rubbish, you alright? xx'

 

I text back normally and asked if he was okay to which he replied. though I didnt reply back after this one becuase I thought he wanted space.

 

Two days have passed without any contact whatsoever and I just got another text from him saying: 'If you're out tonight wrap up! Its freezing in town x'

 

last night I was speaking to my friend on facebook about going out tonight so he has obviously seen that, and seems to want me to know he is out in town too, though I know he normally goes out for drinks with his workmates on a friday.

 

I don't understand why hes still texting after saying he needs time to sort his head out. I still really like him and miss him loads. I'm trying to respect his request but its hard to when he's not sticking to it. We've already ended things so are officially single (though I dont see myself as that yet), and then all this about him wanting to sort his head out, I dont know where we stand. I'm so confused.

I want to get back with him, once he's resolved everything but I know that will take time.

My friends say that if I do not contact him for a few weeks, only reply to a few texts that he will get over his ex quicker becuase (hopefully) he wont want to lose me.

We fell out on new years eve (both at different places) and he randomly turned up at my house and waited for me to try and sort things out. This is the night when he admitted everything, so my friends say its obvious he cares for me and doesnt want to lose me.

I dont want to lose him but I dont know what the right thing to do now is.

 

he was with his ex for 3 years so I can understand that its hard for him. But he's been with me 7 months nearly and we got together about 3/4 months after they broke up.

 

any advice/ideas would be great, thanks

xxxx

Edited January 8, 2010 by xyoungforeternityx

[sunrae]

I'm going through pretty much the same thing...

 

Give him his space and let him sort his feelings out... In the mean time, dont sit around and wait on him either to sort things out and make up his mind..

I know it stinks when they throw bread crumbs, and keep us dangeling, it's so confusing....

[sheithappens]

honestly , its just bread crumbs, he wants to have you on the back burner, i dont mean to sound harsh or anything but like three years is a long time to be with some one and , its going to take him awhile to get over his ex, you can not really compare three years to seven months, maybe at first but then the novelty wears off you know.... hang in there, try not to think about it, and pretty soon he might come back or might not.... try not to wait around for him