bberryguy Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 GF broke up with me Tuesday. Nothing wrong with her and I. Attraction is still there and such but she kind of panicked at the pace of things around the holiday and thought she wasn't ready for relationship after all(seeing each other since Oct in Relationship since Dec and were good friends before and fwb for awhile too). She tends to over-react under emotional stress and not talk things out. Between Holiday stress, new relationship adjustments, perceived obligations of the relationship (like keeping up the time together from the holidays), to new school starting, to now having tooth pulled and not having to go into debt to do it - she kinda freaked and broke it off. I'm hoping to get her back after things settle down. We're really good together. Planned to go into No Contact and maybe meet with her next week or week after to talk rationally after all of her sudden stress. Hoping NC makes her feel what life is without me as well as help me cope a bit with the sudden loss of her. Thing is, she just had the tooth pulled today. I know she's miserable, but it's only been barely two days of NC, but I kind of want to express concern and see how she's doing. That's it. But that also seems counterproductive to the point of NC. Then again, NC is kind of a game and when a medical procedure takes place, should NC still stand?
WTRanger Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 If it was a life threatening toothache, then yes. Other than that, I'd say no. Because be honest. You are not contacting her to see how she's doing. You would be contacting her to see if she responds, and which may give you an open door to patch things up. That's not exactly contacting her with her needs in mind, more like your needs in mind. Plus, the two of you were only dating for a month tops and she's not going to de-stress in a matter of a few weeks. Just give her plenty of time, say perhaps sometime right before the world blows up in 2012?
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