Think I might be falling in love...but not sure if i should let go or hold on...

[Patient]

advice would be greatly appreciated has this has been on my mind constantly...i started talking to a guy 4 months ago..at first everything was going good...we hung out a few times and slept together only once...he was still contacting me and talking to me...even checking on me and stuff...but the contact started declining so i assumed he didn't wanna talk to me anymore...I asked him about it and he said hes just been real busy...he goes to school full time, works full time and has a son...if i text or call he doesnt ignore my contact efforts but he rarely initiates contact and if he does its just to say hi and i havent seen him in a long time...also i recently asked how he felt about me and he never responded...i kind of got upset and snapped on him a lil and he didn't talk to me for a week...but we talk again now..I just dont know what to do or think of him anymore. I cant understand why he cant share his feelings or whats been going on with him as far as Im concerned and I feel like if I tried to talk to him about it I wouldnt get anywhere..I feel like he likes me but then I feel like he doesnt..I dont know if I should drop him or hold on a littl longer because I have serious feelings for him to the point where I think I love him...HELP PLEASE

[whichwayisup]

Just back off and give him space. He may not be as close to having feelings like you do, and if you've mentioned to him how you feel, it very well could be, you've freaked him out. Some men cannot handle intimacy and conversations about 'feelings' so soon.

 

Fact is, he's told you he's busy with work, his son, and school. He more or less is telling you in his own way that he doesn't have time for a relationship, a serious one anyway.

 

Don't push him and definately stop with snapping on him, being upset. All that's going to do is push him further away and detach as he's going to see you as being dramatic, overly emotional and too attached to him.

 

Be a friend, stop asking him about how he feels..But, for now, give him time and space, see if he contacts you again.

[tami-chan]

You are cruising for bruising....

[Awesome Username]

Yeah, give the man his space for a while. You should learn to be emotionally self-sufficient without him. I know it's very hard to do that when you're in love with someone, but nothing brings back a man's feelings for you more than you not needing him every day.

[D-Lish]

The fact is, when someone is truly interested in you, you won't be left feeling so confused, and you won't have to ask them how they feel.

 

If you have to ask, or you have a nagging feeling that things aren't going well- things aren't going well.

 

His actions prove he is pre-occupied and just generally uninterested.

Asking him how he feels is only going to make you appear needy. He's showing you how he feels, and that should be enough for you to move on.

[sagetalk]

This guy is not acting like he should from what little I know about this situation. If he is becoming uninterested in you, or if he's seeing another girl, he should be honest and tell you. There is definitely something going on. Getting upset at him will not do any good for you or him. Slowly back away from him, if he pursues, great. If not, you're setting yourself up for a world of hurt if you continue to go after him.

[New_Life08]

Are you completely sure he doesn't have a gf or wife for that matter? Sounds odd, he wouldn't keep answering you if he wasn't interested...however, his involvement is restricted. Maybe he does go to school and work, but if he cared he would make more effort to spend time with you IF it was possible. Hmmm.... interesting.