nobmagnet Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 :o:o ok one evening together.......... what would you asy right now........im not talking about what you think you should say. its what you would say if you had the chance......no inhibitions. me I loved you with every part of me. why didnt you? i accepted your inadequeties,,,,,,,,why didnt you accept mine? I hurt.......why dont you? why couldnt you tell me how bad you felt? I felt bad too i told you and you didnt tell me you felt the same. when did you fall for her?? i would say two years ago. am i right? Why is it when you are with her you dont seem to care about your children? do you think its right for me to protect your inadaquies for ever?? i dont want to shatter the childrens dream of you. am i right to hate you a bit?? why cant you see my pain?? :mad::mad::mad:
kyta Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 i did love you, maybe i still do a bit, but and its a but, Feck off, i dont need you never needed you only wanted you, i need me bye. then walk away.
kyta Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 actuly i dont need to say anything and dont want the chance, nothing 2 say whats done is done.
HeavenOrHell Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I'd say; I wish we could try again, I wish you could see I know where I/we went wrong, I wish you could love me again and trust me again. I wish my love for you made some difference to you now, that you could realise how special we were together and give our relationship another chance. I still feel that you are the person for me, I can't get rid of that feeling, I cant stop loving you after 18 years just because you are no longer in love with me. You've no idea how hurt and devastated I am, or maybe you do realise but don't want to think about my pain. I know where I/we went wrong and I have changed the things I should have changed a long time ago ie being too busy for a relationship, I have a balance in my life now. I am hurt that you won't give us another chance to see if there is any way forward. I feel like you have so many (female) friends now that why would you need me anymore now you have them, I feel I was just something you made do with until 'better' people came along, how can I see it any differently when you won't give our relationship another chance. Some people are able to rebuild after they reach rock bottom and finally start to really talk about what went wrong, I don't see why we couldn't have done that, it isn't like we had problems which could not be remedied, so the only conclusion I can come to is you don't want me as a partner now that you have more self worth because you feel you can get a more worthwhile partner now.
TaraMaiden Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 "Could I have the last 24 years of my life back, please? or at least, a partial refund.... Thanks. No, a gift voucher will not do."
gaudi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I can't help it babe. The way I feel. I just want you to be happy hun. With or without me babe, with or without me...x
sedgwick Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I'd say, "I still love you," and then kick him in the head.
0hpenelope Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Oh my. I wouldn't dignify him with anything. I want to put the participants of this thread with me in a day spa with personal favorites for dessert. Males included - no one dares turn down a good massage, I say! I really hope all of you are in a better place than you were yesterday.
0hpenelope Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I'd say, "I still love you," and then kick him in the head. Lol! I'd be on the sidelines and throw a copy of your book at his head. "READ IT! READ IT and see how successful she is without you!"
gaudi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I want to put the participants of this thread with me in a day spa with personal favorites for dessert. Males included - no one dares turn down a good massage, I say! Oh Penelope !!!
McGrupp Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 something about omelets. all we really have in common really
kyta Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 What difference would it make to say all this to them? it wont chnage anything, they already know we love them, lets just save our time and energy for us, and say nothing to them.
HeavenOrHell Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yep true, I've already said all I can to him, can't say any more now. What difference would it make to say all this to them? it wont chnage anything, they already know we love them, lets just save our time and energy for us, and say nothing to them.
Author nobmagnet Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 ok i have digested.... have an omlette .we then kick them in the head, then fec off............. heaven or hell..................big snogs xxxxxxxxx Nob
Author nobmagnet Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 one thing more errrrrrrrrr lolwy. why do you forgret you have children when you are with her????????? shall i tell her its a permanent problem or should i let her work it out for herself??????????? nob xx
hopesndreams Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 :o:o ok one evening together.......... what would you asy right now........im not talking about what you think you should say. its what you would say if you had the chance......no inhibitions. me I loved you with every part of me. why didnt you? i accepted your inadequeties,,,,,,,,why didnt you accept mine? I hurt.......why dont you? why couldnt you tell me how bad you felt? I felt bad too i told you and you didnt tell me you felt the same. when did you fall for her?? i would say two years ago. am i right? Why is it when you are with her you dont seem to care about your children? do you think its right for me to protect your inadaquies for ever?? i dont want to shatter the childrens dream of you. am i right to hate you a bit?? why cant you see my pain?? You were blindsided nob, many on this forum, were. I will respond to this before I read the other responses. :mad::mad::mad: I had no inhibitions..I was forthright, curious, stumped how he felt the way he did, and how my actions, to fight to save the M, he had no concern about, really threw me for a loop . A young, married woman, of 28, with a 4 year old son, had more meaning than someone he had spent 10 years with and raised 3 kids with, one of his own. SHOCKING, would be an understatement. You know, so many times I read on this board, what did the BS do wrong? And many BS's responding with, "I did such and such wrong, she/he didn't realize how much I loved them, it was my fault everything went pear shaped and if I could go back in time, I would do everything right and everything would be allright!!" Ha, ha, yoke is on you with that way of thinking and believe me, I would have been the 1st in line to believe it, nodding dumbly and saying, "Yeah, sorry, is there anyway I can make this right?" Well, if being attentive, loving and practically kissing the ground the spouse walked on was a bad thing, then f*cking shoot me now. Now, after months past the nightmare, I can see what a ridiculous statement that is. NO ONE IS PERFECT. I asked him, "How could you have disappointed me so much?" and with that he had no answer. All he did was nod and say, "I know, I'm sorry." With such information, I have moved on...what other choice was there? He is still in lalala land. My reality is staring me straight in the face and I cannot, must not fail. At this point, to let myself down is letting God down as well. My H, is a weinie, gotta cut the ties, and be done with it.
Vault_Dweller Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I loved you with all that I was. I tried my best to be a good boyfriend. What did I get in return? Abuse, both verbal and physical. But I forgave you and still loved you. We were together for a year and at the first sign of greener pastures, another man who would take you, you ripped my ****ing heart out. You didn't even feel me worth breaking up with in person, you did it over Facebook, you cold-hearted bitch. You lied to me and said that you just didn't want to be in a relationship right now. Then you turn around and start f*cking HIM. I don't know now, looking back why I ever loved you, but I did. But now I don't. The way you treat others, I doubt you'll ever find someone who will be as devoted to you as I was. Enjoy being alone once he realizes what a horrible person you are and does to you what you did to me.
teanoranges Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Did I really stop you from being happy in your life? Did I really hold you back from so much when I never asked anything of you but to hold me? Did you literally mean I was dependent cause omg, don't you have eyes. The whole time I was with you I was working on myself alone. You never helped me and you know it. What's with your ego you jerk. Is she really that much better than me? How can you do that to your body? Don't you ever think its ironic that so many things happen to us at the same time when we are miles apart? I hate that you're still in my head and I know you aren't thinking of me. I hate that you think everything we had was bulls*t. You really suck.
dreamer84 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) "Could I have the last 24 years of my life back, please? or at least, a partial refund.... Thanks. No, a gift voucher will not do." She knows how i feel about her....its like nothing more to say...i just need to know why...you said you loved me, you thought this and that, but now you saying different? You said you were not attracted but still kept flirting, holding my hand, etc....but you were not attracted, what sense does that make? But you know i love you, i accepted you and your quirks with no problem, why can't you accept mine? The things you listed as "turn offs" are cosmetic...nothing about my personality being off or anything like that, you want a more fit person, fine, ill go the gym..hell didn't i say we should be bike riding partners next summer? you said you were about to eat healthier, so i was about to be on board with you...ha now you in a new relationship with some skinny chick that loves to eat...how are you going to diet now? ...anyway...you need to apologize...you say you can't because you meant it but you didn't...if you loved me, my crooked teeth and less toned body would not be huge turn offs as if I were unintelligent, had BO, and our personalities clashed....I protected you, i took care of you in the best way i could, despite distance and financial issues, sometimes i put you before me....I didnt want to hurt you, i didnt want to kick you out, but i was abuot to go crazy...you needed to go back home... when you grow up and realized real love kicked you out August 22. 2009, then we can talk... Edited January 9, 2010 by dreamer84
Author nobmagnet Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 oooh couldnt let that pass without comment Dreamer...............WTF???????? Lame lame lame. Nasty person. well done for the boot love hope you wore pointy shoes or steel toe caps!! Nob xx
sedgwick Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You didn't even feel me worth breaking up with in person, you did it over Facebook That is LAME BEYOND LAME!! I was once in an LDR, and I went to visit him one weekend and we had a big argument. The next day, when he drove me to the airport, he hardly spoke to me. I begged him to tell me if he was breaking up with me, to have the courage to do it in person and not by phone or email once I got back home. He assured me he wasn't breaking up with me, he was just angry but would get over it. Sure enough, the next day, he broke up with me by email. Which is shi*ty as hell, but not as shi*ty as breaking up with someone over facebook!! I'm really sorry that happened to you. What a loser she is!
dreamer84 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 oooh couldnt let that pass without comment Dreamer...............WTF???????? Lame lame lame. Nasty person. well done for the boot love hope you wore pointy shoes or steel toe caps!! Nob xx lol @ pointy toe shoes nah, i really didnt want to i was about to go insane though....she was trying to start an ONLINE relationship with someone...really? she should have been more focused on herself and getting her life together....besides her behavior in love (she is really immature in that department) she is a great person. If you met her you would love her personality. she just doesn't/didn't realize what she had...i hope she does one day, whether we reconcile or not....
Blueberry7691 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 :o:o ok one evening together.......... what would you asy right now........im not talking about what you think you should say. its what you would say if you had the chance......no inhibitions. I'm glad it's over between us. It took too long to end it but thank the Lord, I did it FINALLY and I'm NOT turning back! I'm soo much happier with myself and my life and even though sometimes I have emptiness, I know you could never fill that void. I am so looking forward to June when it's a beautiful hot sunny day and I bump into you and you see me glowing with happiness.
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