b52s Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Only to pair you up with someone that is twice your weight? Esp, if the woman has a lot of hot friends, but for some reason, she chose the overweight/ugly one....but for some reason...she thought THAT one girl was the best for you because she has a great personality? I wonder if that's a test. lol There's this one female friend that wants to fix me up, but turns out the woman is in her mid 50's!! (Im 37) yikes...and she's STILL trying totalk me into dating a grandma.
cognac Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yes, I've had women attempt that with me quite a few times in high school. It shows what they themselves think of your looks. Any time I hear a woman wants to set me up with her friend I never accept until I know for sure she's not really fat or extremely ugly. As someone who is not fat , I don't see why they would do that , other than the fact that they think I am some really low value male .
Stockalone Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Only to pair you up with someone that is twice your weight? Esp, if the woman has a lot of hot friends, but for some reason, she chose the overweight/ugly one....but for some reason...she thought THAT one girl was the best for you because she has a great personality? You probably told your friend that you want a woman who has a great personality and that looks aren't important to you. In case your friend is single, you should tell her that a (fat) friend of yours who has a great personality would just be the right guy for her. There's this one female friend that wants to fix me up, but turns out the woman is in her mid 50's!! (Im 37) yikes...and she's STILL trying totalk me into dating a grandma. If you want a family of your own one day, tell your friend that. If she still wants you to date a woman in her 50's, your friend is crazy. If you don't want to date a woman in her 50's because you think she is too old for you or because you don't find her attractive, tell your friend you are not interested and that she needs to stop pestering you.
Johnny M Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Only to pair you up with someone that is twice your weight? Esp, if the woman has a lot of hot friends, but for some reason, she chose the overweight/ugly one....but for some reason...she thought THAT one girl was the best for you because she has a great personality? I wonder if that's a test. lol There's this one female friend that wants to fix me up, but turns out the woman is in her mid 50's!! (Im 37) yikes...and she's STILL trying totalk me into dating a grandma. No, it's not a test. It' just female insecurity. From my experience, a woman would never set you up with someone she feels is hotter than her. Years ago, a buddy's girlfriend (who is quite average looking) tried to set me up with some of her friends. I swear, it was as if she went through her facebook friends list and picked the dumpiest looking chicks she could find. When I'd say "no, but what about [insert name of single, hot friend]?" she'd say "oh, I don't think you'd be a good match" or come up with some other dumb excuse. What you need to understand about women is that when they offer to play matchmaker, they are not doing it for you. Rather, they are doing it for their own benefit. When a woman sets you up with an uglier girl, her own social status (relative to you) rises. If you agree to date someone who is uglier than her, it means that she too could have easily had you. Conversely, when she sets you up with a hotter girl, her own social status drops and she feels like she's not good enough for you. Whether or not the girl doing the matchmaking actually likes you is irrelevant.
Left in a Lurch Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Happens to me a lot. Some that I get set up with are hot, some are not. If women think you are nice, they figure you don't base things on looks, or you are not superficial. I think also they tend to think their friends are "cute" or not ugly even if they might be, which makes sense because I guess I never really considered whether guy friends are ugly or not because I don't really judge guys looks. It's also hard because for some of the women that wan't to set me up, I wouldn't normally say, "I don't like fatties" and I guess I don't try to come off as superficial to them. What I hate is when they have a really hot single friend and know you are interested but won't really try to set you up with her, but a few weeks later try really hard to set you up with someone else who isn't exactly hot. You feel like saying, "You think I'm that ugly?!"
Left in a Lurch Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) What you need to understand about women is that when they offer to play matchmaker, they are not doing it for you. Rather, they are doing it for their own benefit. When a woman sets you up with an uglier girl, her own social status (relative to you) rises. If you agree to date someone who is uglier than her, it means that she too could have easily had you. Conversely, when she sets you up with a hotter girl, her own social status drops and she feels like she's not good enough for you. Whether or not the girl doing the matchmaking actually likes you is irrelevant. Great point. The married ones seem to go more attractive, the single ones go with "personality", so what you say makes total sense. The married ones are out of the game, the single ones are still in it even if they are just dating. that's exactly what I've seen. She'll have 4 or 5 hot friends all single, but only tries to set you up with the one fat girl with a lousy personality. It feels like she is telling you or are only good looking enough for her ugliest friend. Then if you try to hit on her hot friends at a party, they'll back off because they consider you "taken" by their ugly friend and don;t want to hurt her even if you had no interest whatsoever. Although I did have a friend's wife that was super hot set me up with her even hotter friend, so that was pretty cool. Edited January 8, 2010 by Chat Room Hero
phineas Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I stopped doing the hook-up because of this a long time ago. Either i'm really really ugly or women are crazy.
OpenGL Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Good thread. But I have different problem in the past. My buddies girlfriends would ALWAYS say they are going to set me up with one of their girlfriends, but never follow through. At one point where I was kicking it with my buddy and his girlfriend every weekend for a few months straight. Every weekend she'd always say "I'm gonna come out with my girlfriends next weekend and hook you up!!!", then I'd come out and it'd only be her and her boyfriend.
AD1980 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Ive never been attmepted to be hooked up i guess im not even fit for ugly or fat women:laugh: Was kinda tough watching the i guess good lookign guys in our circle get set up without even asking,one guys an aloof weirdo who is socially awkward but hes "hot" so my friends wife tried numerous times to hook him up reagrdless even though im much closer to her becasue i guess she has an easier time offering her friend a hot guy who may be a whackjob then a great guy whos not attractive,i understand i guess
OpenGL Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Being hot is the only thing that matters to women. Didn't you already know this?
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yea I've had them say it.. never happens though. Even had friends tel me they gonna buy me a hooker... thankfully that never happened either
cognac Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yea I've had them say it.. never happens though. Even had friends tel me they gonna buy me a hooker... thankfully that never happened either Don't knock it till you try ! Last year me and my buddies all pitched in to get a rather timid friend a nice escort for his birthday. It was funny and he enjoyed it far more than a gift certificate It's far more degrading to get him the ugliest and fattest girl you can find.
carhill Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Ever have women fix you up Nope. Never. Guess I've been fortunate
Left in a Lurch Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 (edited) Good thread. But I have different problem in the past. My buddies girlfriends would ALWAYS say they are going to set me up with one of their girlfriends, but never follow through. At one point where I was kicking it with my buddy and his girlfriend every weekend for a few months straight. Every weekend she'd always say "I'm gonna come out with my girlfriends next weekend and hook you up!!!", then I'd come out and it'd only be her and her boyfriend. It's funny, I have gotten this too. I had one friend and she would do that all the time. We would make plans a week ahead of time to meet up with her and her friend and after I got there she would tell me, "Oh, she had to work" or "She had to go to some other party". This happened multiple times, it was pretty funny. I finally I met one of her friends after almost a year of her saying she was going to set me up and we hit it off really well but she was leaving to go to school out of state 2 days later. My friend later told me, I hooked you up and you didn't want to date her, I was like, nooooo I had no option of going out with her when she was moving 500 miles away in 2 days. She pointed out another friend that was a single mom 15 years older than me and I wasn't overly interested so now she says I'm not interested in anyone she tries to set me up with. I had one other time I told my friend's wife to set me up with her really hot friend and she just kind of ignored it, then tried really hard to set her up with another guy, who was too scared to even talk to the girl. I was like, "Hey, what about me?" and she just ignored it. It was awesome. Edited January 9, 2010 by Chat Room Hero
Johnny M Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I had one other time I told my friend's wife to set me up with her really hot friend and she just kind of ignored it, then tried really hard to set her up with another guy, who was too scared to even talk to the girl. I was like, "Hey, what about me?" and she just ignored it. It was awesome. You don't need a woman's permission to go out with one of her friends. Just walk up to the girl you like, introduce yourself and start chatting.
Left in a Lurch Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You don't need a woman's permission to go out with one of her friends. Just walk up to the girl you like, introduce yourself and start chatting. Yeah, except for the fact when I asked I had seen her picture and not her in person.
sagetalk Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 No, it's not a test. It' just female insecurity. From my experience, a woman would never set you up with someone she feels is hotter than her. Carve this in stone, it's always gonna be true. Well said.
Author b52s Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 No, it's not a test. It' just female insecurity. From my experience, a woman would never set you up with someone she feels is hotter than her. Years ago, a buddy's girlfriend (who is quite average looking) tried to set me up with some of her friends. I swear, it was as if she went through her facebook friends list and picked the dumpiest looking chicks she could find. When I'd say "no, but what about [insert name of single, hot friend]?" she'd say "oh, I don't think you'd be a good match" or come up with some other dumb excuse. What you need to understand about women is that when they offer to play matchmaker, they are not doing it for you. Rather, they are doing it for their own benefit. When a woman sets you up with an uglier girl, her own social status (relative to you) rises. If you agree to date someone who is uglier than her, it means that she too could have easily had you. Conversely, when she sets you up with a hotter girl, her own social status drops and she feels like she's not good enough for you. Whether or not the girl doing the matchmaking actually likes you is irrelevant. Ah....so her picking out someone for YOU, is pretty much based on her actual ATTRACTION to you?? So in one case, it also means it might be considered a compliment for her to set you up with someone uglier than her? (or the other way around?)
Author b52s Posted January 9, 2010 Author Posted January 9, 2010 Yeah, except for the fact when I asked I had seen her picture and not her in person. That's when you friends request her. ;-) lol Anyhow, I had some female friend that told me she had 2 other female friends, and I suggested us ALL going out dancing or something, just as an excuse to be introduced. And she goes, "Nah, they are only interested in tall guys" And I said, "Umm, you're going to just give up like that? How bout introducing me, perhaps they might overlook that?" And she goes, "No, definitely, they go for taller guys, I wouldn't even bother introducing you." I was like, gee, fine, throw in the towel before the fight starts.
Johnny M Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Ah....so her picking out someone for YOU, is pretty much based on her actual ATTRACTION to you?? NO! It does not matter is she's attracted to you or not. She will not set you up with any girl who is hotter than herself.
CaliGuy Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Only to pair you up with someone that is twice your weight? Esp, if the woman has a lot of hot friends, but for some reason, she chose the overweight/ugly one....but for some reason...she thought THAT one girl was the best for you because she has a great personality? I wonder if that's a test. lol There's this one female friend that wants to fix me up, but turns out the woman is in her mid 50's!! (Im 37) yikes...and she's STILL trying totalk me into dating a grandma. Man I've recently had at least 3-4 different friends trying to "hook me up" with someone. It's almost as if they are saying I am incapable of doing it myself. I understand they like me and think I am worthy but I don't want someone "mothering" me. Besides, I have high tastes that are not easily satisfied.
meerkat stew Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Lots of good analysis in this thread. I've been set up maybe 50 times by women over the years. There -was- one time,in 1984, that a female friend set me up with a fairly attractive friend, so I can't really say that a female friend has never set me up with an attractive friend of hers. I find Johnny M's posts to the thread accurately represent my experience.
Yukikazi Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Lots of good analysis in this thread. I've been set up maybe 50 times by women over the years. There -was- one time,in 1984, that a female friend set me up with a fairly attractive friend, so I can't really say that a female friend has never set me up with an attractive friend of hers. I find Johnny M's posts to the thread accurately represent my experience. But 1 time out of about 50 should pretty much say the same thing
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