duece22022 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 i guess i am in the anger stage. my ex g/f broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. we have been together for 6 years. i really want to send her all the objects and reminders of our relationship. for 2 reasons: 1) i really want to get over her and i don't want all this **** that reminds me of her. i think it will help me move on. 2) i want her to have all the reminders and i guess i want her to feel pain as well. maybe she wants some of the stuff she made me like the calendars and the pictures. i just don't have the balls to throw this stuff away. i am so confused. i know how vindictive and immature it sounds if i send this stuff to her. but a part of me doesn't care. i want to move on. do you guys think this is a good idea? i don't want this crap stuffed away in my attic. please give feedback.
GrayClouds Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) i just don't have the balls to throw this stuff away. i am so confused. i know how vindictive and immature it sounds if i send this stuff to her. but a part of me doesn't care. . Decisions made in the emotion of anger generally are not good decisions. If you do send it she is likely to say ; 1. Wow is he immature and vindictive, I was so right for leaving him. 2. Yippy I get to be free and get all of the stuff. 3. What a looser trying to get win me back by sending me all this sentimental stuff. 4. Boy he must being doing so much worst then me if he can handle this stuff around. No matter how hard you try to thing like them, after a break there head is completely in a different space. So everything you do is interpreted in a way you never expected. Pack it up, hide it, go for a long long run and then hit the gym in a month you will be happier you did. Edited January 8, 2010 by GrayClouds
Author duece22022 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 i think that is really good advice.
bluestraps Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 You may want to save it . I dated a girl for 5 months in 1994, loved her lots. I have one picture of her and I . I am glad I have it sometimes I look at it. It brings back good feelings , probably because it was so short. But I didnt look at it for a few years
dreamer84 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I agree with grey clouds...just store it away somewhere "Out of sight, out of mind" she left things in my place (one i kicked her out hastely so she had no choice) i felt better once i put it in storage...but now i had to move and its no where to put it but in my face...untiol she can gather the money up to send for it...im not helping her anymore, its put me in enough trouble helping her. as for little gifts she got for you, for me i keep them, store them and as i feel better i begin to toss them. My ex gave me a coat, i gave it to someone that needed it, teddy bear, I threw it out, chain, I gave it away...emails were deleted texts, etc....as you get stronger you tend to just...let it go. the bad part fo rme now in my current situation, part of me still hopes by all her stuff being here...it will leave the door open to rekindle something...she will "come home"
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