caseyjanetc Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I was dating my boyfriend for two and a half years, and he broke up with me in a text message, saying he never wants to see me again, that hes sick of my crap and he doesnt want to hear my voice again. He cheated and i have been faithful to him ever since we started dating. I have put up with him, swearing at me, yelling at me,calling me names and said i was "bitching" because i was upset that he cheated on me over a year ago. I found out he lied to me, and because he goes out,im not alowed to ,i have to stay home because ill get "raped" and im a "slut" if i go out with my mates. What do i do? not answer his calls, or messages? What if he comes to my house drunk tomorrow night?
Vampire Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Drop him like a bad habit. If he shows up drunk, call the police. Sounds like a control freak. You can do way better pal.
zetkin Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Oh, that's the whole story... You really should forget about him and start a new life, as soon as possible. Maybe find another boyfriend to protect you from this one )))
Angel1111 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 He's an abuser and you need to never talk to him again. If he contacts you, ignore him. If you must talk to him, then tell him that you agree with what he said - that the two of you don't ever need to talk to one another again and tell him to kiss off. And, in the future, do not EVER tolerate someone being unfaithful or abusive to you.
Devil Inside Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Yikes Casey. This man seems to have several relationship issues. I get the feeling that this is not over in his eyes, and his "break up" last night via text is just part of the game he is playing with your head. Let me ask you...what do you want to do? Are you ready to be done? If so it is going to take some strength, because guys like this react strongly to anyone rejecting them. Good luck...and stay safe.
Trimmer Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Let me ask you...what do you want to do? Are you ready to be done? If so it is going to take some strength.... I think these are really important questions - are you resolved that this is over? If you are not sure, if you might consider taking him back, then you are headed down a whole different road. (And not one that I like to contemplate...) On the other hand, if you are firmly resolved that it's over, then at least you have the strength of that conviction to draw upon. If he does contact you, then you won't be emotionally uncertain about standing your ground. As another poster pointed out, simply agree with his conditions that the two of you should not have contact. If he changes his mind, like "Oh baby, baby, I was crazy, I didn't really mean it..." don't let him steer the ship. You stand your ground: "Well, no matter what you think, now this is what I need, and this is how it's going to be." If he gets menacing, physical, shows up at your door, don't hesitate to call in help. Make a clear and strong statement: stay away. Don't leave room for doubt.
myhearthurtsbadly Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 no matter how hard it is or how frightening you need to escape this now because i hate to think where this might end up in 5-10 years time. Men like him dont change, one minute they are lovely and sweet, the next they raise their fist at you. Please hun, escape it now. Good luck. Thats the advice, once done come on her and we will help you heal xxx
hoping2heal Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 I was dating my boyfriend for two and a half years, and he broke up with me in a text message, saying he never wants to see me again, that hes sick of my crap and he doesnt want to hear my voice again. He cheated and i have been faithful to him ever since we started dating. I have put up with him, swearing at me, yelling at me,calling me names and said i was "bitching" because i was upset that he cheated on me over a year ago. I found out he lied to me, and because he goes out,im not alowed to ,i have to stay home because ill get "raped" and im a "slut" if i go out with my mates. What do i do? not answer his calls, or messages? What if he comes to my house drunk tomorrow night? What do you do? Well, how about for one stop letting yourself be abused? Is there some sort of medal you think you are going to recieve by being a martyr to an unfaithful jerk? You won't. In fact keep this up and the next guy is more likely to wonder what is wrong with you that you allowed yourself to be treated this way and think you have no self respect. Take yourself seriously, so someone else will be able too. You were in an abusive relationship that was negative; it's ended see to it that it STAYS that way. He shows up drunk? Not your problem, point him kindly away from you.
Da_1_n_OnlyN3na Posted January 13, 2010 Posted January 13, 2010 hell no r you sure were not dating the same guy? because this jerk sounds like my jerk lol...almost...lol i hope my x doesnt show up at my house drunk either because i will not open or i will pretend that i am sleepin with my guy roomate so he will leave!... do not answer this jerks calls or txts change your number! hes trying to get in your head and confuse you and make you feel special for the rest of the night and the next day he will be the same jerk!!!
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