Linainverse Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I know I'm usually not - but that's because my last boyfriend could still count the number of previous sexual partners he had on his fingers (only just). But to those of you who have to know your potential partners'/current partners' sexual past - why did you want to know in the first place? Now that you know does it bother you more than when you could only guess, or do you have peace of mind. Is less really more? Or are you wishing they'd (laugh) learned more before wondering over to your neck of the woods? To anyone out there brave enough to let it out: How many sexual partners have you had, that is, how many people have you had sex with? And how many is too many? If there is a such thing.
sparkle Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 When you say "sexual partners", should we be counting oral sex as well...?
Boundary Problem Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 If someone has more than 50 sexual partners, I'm inclined to think they are looking for something they aren't finding. Makes me hope they find it, though I suspect they won't find it where they are looking. It is that chasing men/women, when really the emptiness is inside. No one else can fill that emptiness inside. Certainly not 50+ sexual partners. So I'm not scared of their sexual history. To me it is a piece of information in getting to know who they are and what they are seeking (not what they SAY they are seeking). But what really is it that they are looking for? My big problem would be lies and addiction. Because that is what can destroy a couple. So that is what I would be afraid of: lies and addiction. Not the past sexual partners.
Author Linainverse Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 No I mean actual penetrative sex. Man that sounds dirty
meerkat stew Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) If someone has more than 50 sexual partners, I'm inclined to think they are looking for something they aren't finding. This is close to how I feel. IME, promiscuity, sexual addiction, personality disorders, alcoholism, substance abuse, general impulsiveness are behaviors that tend to come in a cluster (maybe that's part of the reason lots of disorders are classified as "cluster" disorders). May sound bigoted, but I've never met someone who has had tons of sexual partners that didn't also have significant other issues with the cluster of behaviors described above. So the history itself doesn't scare me, and I won't write someone off just for a high number, but dollars to donuts, more bad stuff is going to come out related to that high partner number. EDIT: didn't see the rest, 45 y.o. male, stopped counting at 25, probably in the low 30s. Edited January 8, 2010 by meerkat stew
tami-chan Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 50 sexual partners.....that's mind-boggling to me...
Recommended Posts