mochawoman2003 Posted December 26, 2003 Posted December 26, 2003 Hello and Happy Holidays to everyone,,, Well I have a dilemma, I have been dating this guy for about 3 months now, yes we have been physical. I am just wondering if it is too early for me to be making demands on who he can and can not see in terms of dating. I talked to him about being exclusive and he felt it was a little to early to become exclusive, remember its only been 3 months. I dont want to push him away by being too clingy, guys hate that. And to top matters off, he did not call me for Christmas. Signed Confused Dater
yes Posted December 26, 2003 Posted December 26, 2003 didn't call for xmas? sex but no exclusivity? doesn't sound good to me ... i'd stop sleeping w/ him, for one thing. no, i don't think three months is too early... it's not rlly about time, right? it's about where the relationship stands... just some thoughts, -yes
moimeme Posted December 26, 2003 Posted December 26, 2003 Well, call me a lunatic, (many have) but I'd hope that by the time two people were having sex, it would be because they have decided to be exclusive.
Tony T Posted December 26, 2003 Posted December 26, 2003 Three months is plenty of time for him to decide if he wants to pursue an exclusive relationship with you. But if he can be having sex with you and a handful of others at the same time and it's OK with everybody, I think he's a pretty lucky guy. Make sure he uses a condom with you and just remember that doesn't protect you from every STD such as genital warts, etc. If he hasn't decided by now that he'd like to get to know you better (other than sexually) I'd say it's time to move on from this player boy. Unless you're having a good time and don't have a problem with him dating and sleeping with other women, you could be just another of his girls for a good while. That he didn't call you for Christmas sends a MAJOR message to you!!! So which one of his honies did he spend this special day with?
mjk Posted December 26, 2003 Posted December 26, 2003 I think the guy's sitting on the fence here. Really He ,if you have been together 3 months, sholud be exclusive with you. its one of the very basic rules of engagement so to speak. What went on in those 3 months? Did you see each other a lot or a little bit? how soon did you have sex with him? By answering these questions it might help to understand what is going on...
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