Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 the guy claims to want to date me but has not yet made plans. I already had the talk the past two days ago that I will not get into a casual relationship. So we agreed to date. However I said he would let me know when he is available and we can go from there. Well I am getting a vibe that he isn't really interested. I am going just back off and if he does contact me at some point I will say I don't understand what he wants and that I was under the impression that he was not interested. The problem: I think he thinks he has me. Yes i care and he knows this and is using it to his advantage by being distant. It does bother me but I can back off and date other guys. So my question is, what is he doing? he wants me to want him more? If anything I am feeling like i need to protect myself. A guy that has been interested in me usually contacts me and we do things each week. Advise?
boogieboy Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Write him off. If he hasnt suggested anyplace to go, he cant be that interested. You might be a backup. If he's distant now, he will be distant later probably.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 i don't understand why he is distant. we are friends. however its different now because we are romantically interested in each other. I don't get how some one who is into me can be distant...it makes me wonder if a i am a back up. He has assured me he doesn't have anything going on with other girls but I am feeling like he doesn't want a relationship if this is how he is acting. I do care about him and this is what scares me so this is why i feel i need to back off also. I don't understand if we are mutually "into" each other then why doesn't he make plans for this weekend or talk to me. I told him to call me also. However, its like he doesn't feel the need to make a move. Ugh.. anyways I'm going to stay away from him for a bit. I know he will come back in my life some how and thats when i am going to say "i didn't think he was interested.' thanks for the input.
sparkle Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I agree...write him off. If you've gotta tell him to call you and he won't do so nor make plans, then he doesn't seem interested.
colosseum Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 i don't understand why he is distant. we are friends. however its different now because we are romantically interested in each other. I don't get how some one who is into me can be distant. Because he's not interested. I'm a dude, I can vouch for him; actions speak louder than words (unless he comes up with some really outlandish but convincing excuse, which doesn't seem likely). I am feeling like he doesn't want a relationship if this is how he is acting. I do care about him and this is what scares me so this is why i feel i need to back off also. Yes trust your instincts.
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