1life8love1trust Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 So I already now I need to move on.She left me for some other dude, and I have been working on myself and all the other good stuff. Heck for a minute there I was actually feeling great. But now everything is back. It seem like everything thats happening I feel like blaming her. I am about to lose my job, because when she left me, I kind of started slacking and my quality of work was crap. So all the stuff that I did has finally caught up and well I got suspended. I was finally getting things straight and more of life test is thrown at me. Its funny how life works, I finally find a job that can support myself and her, then she leaves. A little while later I lose that job. I know that its pointless to try to get her back, at least from most of the "others" point of view but I know things will get better. With or without her. I just hope that it happens soon..... 3 months already BTW and I am not going to lie I still miss her..... And yes there has been no contact between us.
DiscoChick Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You seem like a really nice guy. Do not let the negativity of that relationship dictate your life. I took care of my ex-boyfriend for almost three years, and he couldn't even tell me he was seeing someone else until the day after it happened. Yes, I still love him. I'm a realistic person; I will always love him. I wish him nothing but the best. I just know that experiences are part of life and one must learn how to overcome and cope. I didn't let his decision ruin what I worked towards and what I work for now. I have to live for myself and God. Yes, I'm a religious person. Things will get better. Do things that make you happy.
Author 1life8love1trust Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 I have been with this forum for a little over 2 months now I think and out of all the advice I have gotten there was something in yours that I know I have been neglecting. I didn't use to be as close as I wanted to be with GOD before I met her but I did go to church, volunteer with Sunday School, and heck I'm Catholic I actually also Alter Served. I wished god to find someone like her, and she came. And I know, it wasn't god who took her away, but.... I need to not only work on myself but my faith as well. I knew it from the beginning, but I was angry. Angry at myself, and a little at him... Thank you, but I know now that without faith, nothing is accomplished. I still miss her though....
DiscoChick Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Don't feel regretful because you miss her. It's only human to miss people we love. I found it helpful to sit and evaluate the situation. Work on making yourself stronger. Think about the good things from your relationship. You learned initiative because you wanted to make her happy. Use the improved you to find someone who will be best for you. She was good, obviously, but shoot for best. Get a new job that you'll love. Just be mindful of all the great things you're headed towards. Don't let that feeling of loss dictate what you do or how you do things. Stay strong.
Zeegagge Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yah man, Im in the same boat. We've been broken up 2 1/2 months and right after we broke up she found someone else, a girl not a guy, but that's another story. Everyone tells me I just gotta move on and I know it. I mean I dont want her back, she's gone too far off the deep end for that and she needs to grow up. It never would've worked anyway. Regardless, I still miss her. All the time I do. Its like having the rug pulled out from under you. We did everything together and now I sit here alone. I do stuff with friends and what not but its the time in between. Im just bored really, and lonely. I hate starting over. I hope this works out soon.
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