NYY5 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) I posted this somewhere else, but I thought I'd get a second opinion here. Anyway, this is my story: This girl and I are not friends, we don't communicate at all, but we have been working in the same building for nearly 5 years. I know her name, she knows mine. I see her every now and then at the gym. (To make a long story short, a few years back, I saw her at the gym, she smiled and waved, and I waved back, but did not approach her) I saw her the next day at a restaurant, and she saw me, to which she said, "I see you everywhere!" and I gave the pathetic response, "yeah..." and have been kicking myself ever since, because she is no longer friendly to me for whatever reason. At the gym tonight, guess who I saw again? It was from a distance, but she was walking in my direction, I was walking in hers, and we passed by each other. Before she approached, I had made up my mind that I wanted to say hi, despite my persistent shyness (since I've had a big crush on her for a while now). But just as we passed, she started looking down at the floor away from me, making any chance for eye contact impossible. I'm aware that I could've still said hello, but I chickened out at the last second, plus the fact that she looked down and away when I came near her seemed to me (and I could be wrong) that she wasn't interested in saying hello. A friend of mine said maybe she does want me to talk to her, or likes me (or whatever) but is shy or embarrassed. But maybe he was just saying that to make me feel less rejected. I'm not sure, but what would you think? Edited January 8, 2010 by NYY5
Clep Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 If I was to guess it would have been your pathetic response. She tried to strike up conversation after waving to yo already once and your responded with one word. I would take that as an indication that you were not interested in conversing with me. It seems to me that she is interested in you and possibly feels rejected that you didn't seem interested in keeping the conversation going. I would in the future stop her, as in say excuse me or touch her arm or something to get her attention. I would be honest and just tell her the last response was due to you being taken off guard or for whatever reason you did that. I would tell her you would like to get to know her better and see what she says.
Author NYY5 Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 But the time she tried to strike up a conversation and waved at me was years ago. Do you think it would be weird to bring it up at this point? I wish I could go back and change how I reacted, but I can't. I actually saw her on facebook, and she denied my friend request, which is justifiable, since she doesn't know me, and she is picky about adding friends from work from what I can see. I was tempted to send her a message through the site and explain that I wasn't trying to be mean or rude, but on second thought, I didn't think it was a good idea, since she might think it was kind of a stalker thing to do. I suppose I can try and work up the courage to say hello next time I see her, and see how that goes.
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