Babygirl8385 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 alright, to start it off, this is something I have not yet brought up to my husband, as i dont know if itll be taken well at all. basically long story short we live with his uncle and mother, which doesnt bother me family is important. but i draw the line when his mother constantly goes to him saying that im not cleaning after myself, and to start cleaning the garbages, and to clean there living area etc. i basically live in our bedroom, i use the kitchen when necessary, and bathroom, im A VERY clean person. So this upsets me, and he comes to me with it, i understand hes just trying to keep the peace, i suppose, but at this point im completely disgusted with them, and i want to move. theres also other problems, such as whenever we go to dinner, we bring them food home etc. none of this is reciprocated to me, only to my husband. i feel very left out and very not welcome here anymore. and im desperately seeking advice as to wether i should just leave, or discuss and see where it goes with my Husband. i am not trying to be selfish, or greedy. but its just plain disrespectful to treat me like dirt, and to expect me to slave around for them. I SAY F THAT. i need respect, i need to be apart of this family or im gone.
2sure Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 If you are living there, of course you want to be accepted as part of the family. A contributing member of the family. It is possible that if you are basically living in your bedroom and just cleaning up after yourself, his Mom does not feel like you are contributing to the household, the family. A weekend guest in a home is not expected to take out the garbage, vacuum, clean the bathrooms. A weekend guest is expected only to keep their room clean and pick up after themselves. A family member is expected to pick up , clean, and do whatever chores are necessary to run a household - whether they dirtied it, dropped it, whatever. Are you a family member or a guest?
Author Babygirl8385 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 I am a family member by marriage. I am not complaining about the chores, i didnt explain fully, that it doesnt bother me, its how she treats me, how i feel, and how im treated like a guest in a place where i shouldnt be.
greengoddess Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Babygirl, interesting user name by the way, you may want to think about why you consider yourself still a baby girl when you are a married woman. Why are you just using your room and occasional kitchen? Come out from hiding in your room and become a member of the family. Be sociable. Join the family in the household. They may be uncomfortable that you just hide in your room. Are you paying rent or living there rent free? If you are there without sharing expenses then you need to do more to help. Do you work outside the home? Stand proud babygirl and become a proud woman. Escape that room and takeover the household. Be too involved. Lose that superior attitude about f them you are not a maid. No you are a proud woman who lives in that home and will take responsibility for the appearance of it. Smile and love your husband and his family.
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