arkturus Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hey everyone, First off, I just want to thank everyone and this website for helping me through some rough times. It's really nice to know people can get together on here and help each other through these rough times.. Just a quick backstory.. My ex and I were together for almost 5 years. She is 21 and I'm 25. Our relationship has had it's ups and downs like others, but the high's were always very high. I was her first love. Anyway about 2 weeks ago she was telling me how much she loved me and blah blah. Then she started hanging out with these other friends of hers and all of a sudden she just wnated to be friends. I told her I could'nt be friends and i wished her the best of luck. After about 12 days of NC, she contacted me. She was asking if she could get a few of her things. Old boots, clothes etc. The conversation was very light and I made her laugh a few times. I kept trying to cut the convo short but she kept talking. Finally I said I have to go but i'll gladly get your stuff ready for you to pick up. I'm really not sure if this is just some reach out to see what I'm up to or if she just wants to get her stuff back. Maybe she just wants her stuff back and im reading too much into it but im just not sure if I should continue with NC or not right now or what I should do. I really want her back in my life. I know she still has feelings for me but things are so complicated. What do you guys think? Thanks so much in advance
gaudi Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Well she didn't say anything about thinking she had made a mistake did she ? I think in this case mate it's back to as you where on the NC, she sounds like the type who might be getting in touch with you regularly, just to, you know, keep in touch, (keep you on the back-burner too). Reconciliation with this girl may well be the only thing on your mind right now, but right now it's her choice. What you need to do is get yourself into a position where you feel so good about yourself and your own wellbeing, that it would be YOUR choice about whether you should try again, if she ever asked you too. Hopefully by then you wouldn't even care.
Author arkturus Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 (edited) Thanks Gaudi, I think your probly right. It's funny.. been listing to alot of David Dangelo and reading his stuff... been working on myself... the mornings are the hardest for me. At night, I couldn't care less.. I would assume that the spikes in emotions level out as the weeks go on. I hate how the memories just nail me when im being productuctive with my business Thanks for your reply It's back to NC after she gets her stuff Edited January 7, 2010 by arkturus
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