b52s Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Saw a profile of a woman on MySpace in my area (not many single people in my area, at least locally, I kind of live in a rural area)....apparently she says she is new to the area and looking to meet new people. She's a vet Tech and does some modeling (she has some professional modeling shots of herself in her profile) Then I scrolled down and saw she was engaged....bleh....then I saw some of her "about me" section. That she's been in a 10 year relationship with her fiance', and has had a 7 year old son with them. So basically they're a family unit without the marriage. She's 28, so that means they've been together since she was 18, but no marriage plans . My question to her would be, what's taking her so long? I meet a lot of people like this, with Fake engagements that have no wedding date in sight. Why even get engaged??
Bejita463 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Why even get engaged?? I bet if you ask her in a nice enough way, she'd probably tell you.
Author b52s Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 I bet if you ask her in a nice enough way, she'd probably tell you. Actually, I'm leading into it...among some of the questions about what brought her to my area, what she does and hobbies, basic stuff....... I said, "Oh, cool....been in a relationship for 10 years and now engaged.....so when are you getting married?" If she says "we're in no rush" or typical response that long engaged people do....that'd be my next question, "Why wait so long?"
Jersey Shortie Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 It's probably not her that's taking so long. It's probably her man that she's been with. I had a girlfriend that was also with her guy since high school. He finally asked her to marry him like two years ago when she was 31. She wanted to be married for a long time. But she didn't want to preasure him into it or make him feel trapped. So she settled while he be-bopped along quite happy until he *finally* asked her to marry him.
sparkle Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 A friend of mine and his girl have been together for 10 years, they're now 35, they have a daughter, engaged but no plans to get married. Their excuse - an engagement is an easier-to-break commitment, without the mess of a complicated divorce should they split up. However, they say it prevents them from taking the other or the relationship for granted, knowing that they can in fact, easily split up. They seem to be doing just fine.
Author b52s Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 A friend of mine and his girl have been together for 10 years, they're now 35, they have a daughter, engaged but no plans to get married. Their excuse - an engagement is an easier-to-break commitment, without the mess of a complicated divorce should they split up. However, they say it prevents them from taking the other or the relationship for granted, knowing that they can in fact, easily split up. They seem to be doing just fine. If that's the case, why not just find someone else? I've always wondered, when people puddled around, they're actually looking for someone else. I met a woman that actually attended singles functions and speed dating events because her current boyfriend won't tie the knot with her. She admitted to the fact that if her boyfriend wouldn't marry her, during this "Piddlin' around" time, she'll go out to these events to find another prospect. I asked her "Why don't you just dump him?" She kinda laughed, "Well, he's great in bed and mows my lawn". lol But, she kind of makes a point, why piddle around in a relationship, when you could find someone else who is willing to commit? Personally, I don't see what the motivation is to stay "dating" the same person for a friggin decade. lol I bet at least one of them is probably getting a wandering eye.
Author b52s Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Found another woman's myspace page says she's "Engaged" She's a 40 year old with professional modeling shots in lingerie and bikini's (not a real model....a "myspace" model...with myspace, everyone thinks their famous, lol) In her profile it says, this "So I'm here to tell you about me so here goes-- I'm in a relationship with a great guy who is the love of my life hope to one day be the man that i grow old with (if your reading this you know all about the 2 to 3). I hope he loves me as much as I love him" That last part that says, "I hope he loves me as much as I love him.....that's a red flag there, lol...she doesn't even know if he loves her or not....(well, with not as the same intensity as him.) You see, I'm a guy that's mor willing to get married...and they're wasting time with these fools.
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