lalala20 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hi, so Im new to this site but I really need advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months and are in love or at least were at one point, and I definately still am. The other day I was mad at him for not answering his phone for 2 hrs and i guess i went a little overboard and told him that if he didnt change his behavior I wanted to break up (of course I was bluffing). Then he says that he thinks its best that we do break up because some of his habits hurt me and that hes not ready or mature enough to change them, but he still wants to be there for me, whatever that means. When I tell him that I didn't mean it, and that if we broke up I couldnt keep spending time etc. cuz it would be too painful for me. We talk about it awhile and he tells me he loves me but is not in love with me!!!!!! words I never though I would hear. Anyway I cry and wine about it for awhile begging for an explanation, and he says he is going to call me back in a few minutes. Then about 20 minutes later he texts me saying he is on his way to my place, then calls he to tell me he feels crazy and that he doesnt want to lose me and that he is indeed still IN LOVE with me and that he wants to forget that the whole thing happened. Hesitantly I agree to take him back but now he's just letting me down and things just arent the same. He call and come over quite as much, and he seems kinda disinterested even though he says he loves me. Its always another excuse and I just want to know......should I consider this relationship over? I think sometimes that he's either way too comfortable or he's falling out of love. I cant decide but I feel like if he is just not that into me anymore I would rather cut my losses and deal with the pain now instead of holding on. What should I do???
Mac McMenamin Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 If you think it may be over, then odds are it probably is. If you're in love with someone, you shouldn't be in doubt over whether they love you back. You should get the feeling that they want to be with you.
Author lalala20 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 You are probably right. I am trying to give it time but right now im not sure if I trust my emotions. Is there any way to fix this before its too late?
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