hellp12234 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hi, I am curious, for my own knowledge, if you like a girl will you make it obvious to her one way or another (by asking for her number, email.... etc)? Is there anything that might stop you from asking out a girl that you like?
JohnnyBlaze Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Generally, it's shyness and pride. Guys are afraid of saying the wrong thing, and equally afraid of the girl saying the wrong thing.
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Hi, I am curious, for my own knowledge, if you like a girl will you make it obvious to her one way or another (by asking for her number, email.... etc)? Is there anything that might stop you from asking out a girl that you like? Lack of indication that she feels the same. If you want a guy to ask.. you gotta be sure you show him signals that you are receptive.. if you don't make any effort.. alot of guys wont make a move unless they know you would be welcome to it..
alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I am curious, for my own knowledge, if you like a girl will you make it obvious to her one way or another (by asking for her number, email.... etc)? yes Is there anything that might stop you from asking out a girl that you like? a large boyfriend
Odyssey Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 yep, she'll definitely know if i'm interested. no 2nd guessing. no mixed signals. What would stop me? if she's taken already...but i'll soon get the hint by asking her out anyways... so i guess that's a no. But in order for me to chase, she's gotta 'give' me something to chase - it's about approachability.
purgatori Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 I can't speak for other guys, but I know that if I like a girl, I try to hide it as much as possible. This isn't part of some 'strategy' whereby I hope to 'win' the girl in question, but rather owing to the knowledge that if I like a girl, she's undoubtedly way out of my league. Firstly, I want to avoid the awkwardness that goes along with her knowing that someone she doesn't like, likes her; secondly, given that she probably likes ultra-masculine guys (i.e. the complete opposite of myself), I don't want her to know that she has any kind of sway over me... in fact, I'd rather she think that I despise her, which in some cases, I might actually do. Only a couple of times did I ever let a girl know that I liked her, and the consequences were sufficiently humiliating as to instruct me never to make the same mistake again.
Vault_Dweller Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Yes, Fear of rejection. If she isn't giving me obvious signs she's interested, I'm likely to have a bit of trouble working up the balls to ask her out.
LonelyGuy85 Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 To quote George from Seinfeld "Signals, Jerry. Signals" It all depends on the guys personality. If he is the type of guy who goes for it, regardless of signals, then you don't need to be doing anything other than being yourself. However, if he is the type of guy who is reserved and won't make a move without some clear signals then that's exactly what you need to do. You need to show him you're interested, then he will know your intentions. It's doesn't need to be a massive signal either, just touching his arm when you talk, eye contact etc. Just be clear.
fesovit Posted January 14, 2010 Posted January 14, 2010 fear of rejection is definitely there.......if u show some signal of ur liking....he will approach u.......make eye contacts ......
skydiveaddict Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I can't speak for other guys, but I know that if I like a girl, I try to hide it as much as possible. This isn't part of some 'strategy' whereby I hope to 'win' the girl in question, but rather owing to the knowledge that if I like a girl, she's undoubtedly way out of my league. Firstly, I want to avoid the awkwardness that goes along with her knowing that someone she doesn't like, likes her; secondly, given that she probably likes ultra-masculine guys (i.e. the complete opposite of myself), I don't want her to know that she has any kind of sway over me... in fact, I'd rather she think that I despise her, which in some cases, I might actually do. Only a couple of times did I ever let a girl know that I liked her, and the consequences were sufficiently humiliating as to instruct me never to make the same mistake again. Dude you sound REALLY depressed. You should see a Dr. I'm not trying to be an a$$, I'm serious. There are drugs that will help you
Maxxx Posted January 15, 2010 Posted January 15, 2010 I can't speak for other guys, but I know that if I like a girl, I try to hide it as much as possible. This isn't part of some 'strategy' whereby I hope to 'win' the girl in question, but rather owing to the knowledge that if I like a girl, she's undoubtedly way out of my league. Firstly, I want to avoid the awkwardness that goes along with her knowing that someone she doesn't like, likes her; secondly, given that she probably likes ultra-masculine guys (i.e. the complete opposite of myself), I don't want her to know that she has any kind of sway over me... in fact, I'd rather she think that I despise her, which in some cases, I might actually do. Only a couple of times did I ever let a girl know that I liked her, and the consequences were sufficiently humiliating as to instruct me never to make the same mistake again. OUCH! But you know what I am right there with you LOL @ 39 I can count on one hand the number of Girlfriends I have had for some of the very same reasons you have stated here..... sad but true:lmao: The good news for me is I found a woman that basically showed me she liked me therefore I was in a win win situation. I knew I could not loose there for I did finely make the move but only after I knew it was a sure thing. And as it turns out we are getting married But to answer the posters question no I NEVER did nor will I in the future let a woman / girl know I like them
Zeegagge Posted January 19, 2010 Posted January 19, 2010 If I like a girl I just make sure to be on top of my game any time I'm around them. I project my best qualities and in a good way. They tend to come running after a little of that. They end up giving me such strong signals that the rest is a walk in the park.
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