Pizzaman81 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I will tell you what just happened, then pose a question. Just got back from a date with this really cute girl that I am thinking of pursuing. All is good until *BOOP BOOP BOOP DOO DOO! RING RING RING BANANA PHONE!!!* I was in the middle of talking and *RING RING RING BANANA PHONE! PING PONG!* She picks up and was like "Alex? Who is this? Oh Chaz? How did you get my number?" Then she hangs up... I was like "Hoo! Can't get the guys off of ya! *in a playful manner* She said: "Oh ya I didn't recognized the number!" So I continued to finish what I was saying.. and then *RING RING RING BANANA PHONE!!! YING YANG YING YANG* She answers, "Hello? Oh hi! Ya sure, I'll call you back.. a friend you want to introduce me to? sure!" *Hangs up* "Sorry about that! It was my friend! so anyway you were saying?" Me: "So I met this really cute girl, she's interested in me, and I think I am interested too! So I'm excited to see her this weekend actually!" So what is your rule for calls on dates? For me today, i turned off my blue tooth (didn't want my car to start answering my call when she's there), put my cell on silent. I tend not to pick up calls especially numbers I don't recognize when on dates. Ah she was so cute though.
Tony T Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Sounds like she's got a lot going on right now. She's just wanting to have fun. If you're up to it, have some fun with her. You just never know. Sometimes people get immersed in social activity to drown out pain. Sometimes not. It's up to you to find out if you think she's worth it. Chances are better than fifty percent that right now she's not wanting anything serious...and she's not wanting it with everything that wears pants.
PinkToes Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Personally, I think it's tacky. If someone is expecting an important call, I think they ought to tell the other person beforehand. Otherwise, turn off the phone. Just seems like good manners to me.
tami-chan Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I never answer personal calls when I am on a dinner date....but I do have to answer calls-work related, it comes with the territory and my date would have already known that. I like what you said to her, Pizzaman! Serves her right!
Author Pizzaman81 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 Did you meet her online? Ya! Oh and on another unrelated note that happened there.... I saw my ex's brother and his gf eating there too.
2sunny Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 i think it's just plain rude. she's showing you disrespect and not making the time spent with you a priority. also shows she's insecure. i can understand if it were her kids, but other than that -it's rude.
InspiredbyYou Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Ya! Ok reason I ask is because some online daters have friends call them during the date purposely to have an "out". It's a pre-planned exit strategy. Guys would tell me they do that all the time on dates, we joked about them doing it to me 2 hours in. She could have set that call up just in case she wasn't into the date. No one in their right mind would talk to a friend so frankly about going out on another date, WHILE on a date. They would talk in code. That was a set up my friend!
Author Pizzaman81 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 Ok reason I ask is because some online daters have friends call them during the date purposely to have an "out". It's a pre-planned exit strategy. Guys would tell me they do that all the time on dates, we joked about them doing it to me 2 hours in. She could have set that call up just in case she wasn't into the date. No one in their right mind would talk to a friend so frankly about going out on another date, WHILE on a date. They would talk in code. That was a set up my friend! Alright! Then I shall move on.
Mac McMenamin Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I hate when I'm out on a date with someone and they decide to take a phone call. I just sit there staring elsewhere and feeling kind of dumb. I know when I'm out I set my phone to silent and just focus my attention on the person I out with. Maybe I'm a little old fashioned on this one, but if I've got someone out on a date, I really hate when the phone comes out and they answer calls and/or texts. Can't it just wait for a couple of hours?
stillafool Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I would think if a man is nice enough to take me out the least I could do is turn off my phone and give him all my attention. I feel her behavior was rude.
boogieboy Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 My phone stays off and in my pocket on dates. If she is taking calls during the date, she is either not that interested, or shes a drama queen who needs to know people are trying to get at her all the time. You never know, she might be one of those women who doesnt take dates seriously until she is serious with you. She might really just be having fun.
Art_Critic Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Next... No excuse for that kind of rudeness... WTF is wrong with letting calls go into voice mail for 30-60 mins.. I would gauge her interest level in you at a 3 out of 10 and honestly you want the peron you are out on a date with to at least be interested in you and your conversation.
DustySaltus Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 When you go out on a date with someone your attention should be focused on them. By answering calls left and right she is saying she would rather be somewhere else right now. When you like someone and try to make a good impression, you are on your best behavior. She wasn't on DAY ONE, it's not cool. I mean give me attention for at least a half hour or so, is that too much to ask?
xpaperxcutx Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Wow that was rude. I normally have my phone turned on whenever I'm out, but if I do get a call during dinner I would always politely excuse myself first. Isn't that the normal thing to do?
ann09 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Very rude of her. She may have set that up though. Maybe not as an "out" but to show you that she is sought after and popular etc. Probably one of her friends did this and they had it all planned out. But to me that's playing games and uncalled for. Move on.
tigereyes1428 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 bad mannered, immature and reeks of insecurity - sounds like she has to let you know other people are attracted to her or it is the typical set up call - your mate calls depending on answers i give then a kids are sick and i need to go b pipe burst in kitchen c other emergency - if i dont like my date or feel comfortable and need an excuse to leave please note these kind of things were things i did in my early twenties - would never need to do that now that i am a grown up
Jersey Shortie Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Totally rude. I wouldn't go out with her again. When I am on a date, I don't pick up my cell phone if it rings. I also don't check it every 15 mins for texts. Even some of my girlfriends do this when we go out to dinner and I want to smack them.
Vertex Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hahaha, I loved your response to her, Pizzaman. Anyways, regardless of whether or not it was a "bailout plan" or just plain tackiness, it's still... well... tacky and rude. Double whammy no matter how you look at it.
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