b52s Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 This is aimed mostly at the men, but I was wondering, have you ever been in a situation where a woman had pretty much insulted you or alluded in a snotty way "I wouldn't date you in a million years", when you nicely asked them out or simply wanted to get to know them, but somehow, they picked an insensitive way to insult you (possibly a back handed insult) where it really kind of "stung" a little? Or perhaps they just found some insensitive kind of way to tell you they're not interested? Basically they weren't nice about it, and they had no reason not to be nice about it....they simply were insensitive about it? Not saying this happens all the time, but ever had moments or times where some women you had come across really gave you a number on your self-esteem and/or attempted to break your confidence. Possibly subject to ridicule? In fact, there are some women that won't give kudos to a guy asking them out because they thought he was an idiot for making an attempt. Funny, these very same women tend to preach how they are looking for "confidence" in a man, when they're the ones that attempt to BREAK a man's confidence. Catch 22. That being said, men DO have it harder than women when it comes to dating, and the enlightened women also AGREE with me on that as well. I had some female friends tell me that they wouldn't want to be a single man at all because of what we go through when it comes to dating. Anyone agree to at least that?
JohnP82 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I had a girl tell me she hated me, without actually getting to know me. Her friend was into me, but I was into her. Hmmm, another time I got a girl's number and then saw her snickering to her friends about it a few minutes later. Needless to say that didn't go anywhere. Neither one felt good and are the only times I can think of stuff like that happening. Hopefully they are the final ones.
meerkat stew Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Have not had many women be nasty to me when asked out, but have experienced having several women over the years whom I had asked out sleep with one of my friends in the same week after I asked her out. That's an "ouch" moment on the self esteem for sure. Have also experienced being the only guy in the group that a sleeparound woman wouldn't sleep with. Have also had a woman date me to get to one of my friends on several occasions. It's hard to date for 30 years without your self-esteem getting a thrashing from time to time.
JohnP82 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Have also experienced being the only guy in the group that a sleeparound woman wouldn't sleep with. Have also had a woman date me to get to one of my friends on several occasions. I've had both of those happen to me also.
start-fresh Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hmmm, another time I got a girl's number and then saw her snickering to her friends about it a few minutes later. Needless to say that didn't go anywhere. Please, please, please tell me you didn't even attempt to call that idiot. If you didn't it probably through her for a loop though, which she definitely deserved.
PJKino Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I really dont approach women much so i dont get the chance.. WHen i made out with my best friends wifes friend dutign thr summer she texted me the next day she only did it because she was drunk.. My friends wife gave me a backhanded compliment saying "good job she was way outta your league" which also hurt. From what ive seen women are extremely sensitive about a Man saying something about there or other womens looks but they have no problem telling you i a trait they dont find attractive in a Man that you may also lack even if they werent talking diretcly to you they dotn care to filter themslves around it.. I think women think Men are unemotional robots who have no feelings and ripping a man about his looks isnt a big deal to Men and dont effect us or something
carhill Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 What's your hourly rate? If I had let that affect my self-esteem, I'd have done a head-on into a semi on a dark, dark night. I did finally give up and started traveling to meet women in other countries. If nothing else, they were at least friendlier. Between those experiences and the ones of late, I'll be lucky if I even recognize a jerkette. They all look the same to me now; two dimensional.
start-fresh Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Oh, in regards to the OP , I haven't dated a whole lot so my self esteem is still basically intact. I've felt the sting of rejection for sure, but haven't dealt with outright b*tches. The girls I have asked out I've been pretty successful with because I usually wait for some obvious signs of interest first. That can be good and bad because you miss opportunities but it's also easier to stay out of the dumps that way. And as far as enlightened women go: It is so sexy when a woman realizes what guys go through and is classy dealing with it, whether they're interested or not. Honestly, I think girls/women actually need to develop the skill of politely turning down guys. My guess is some in the younger crowd just haven't gotten there yet. Then there's always the women who are just mean, spiteful people, but that goes both ways.
Author b52s Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 My friends wife gave me a backhanded compliment saying "good job she was way outta your league" which also hurt. Yeah, exactly, women are notorious for this......we are celebate for years and we ugly / average guys finally score with a perfect 10, and we get someone making a remark like that....great job...real mature!
xbluudevilx Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 ive been once told that the person was not interested in me because i had long wavy black hair... ummm.. OK?!
PJKino Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Yeah, exactly, women are notorious for this......we are celebate for years and we ugly / average guys finally score with a perfect 10, and we get someone making a remark like that....great job...real mature! If i made any remark to a women i know close to that where i said hes out of your league id either be slapped or shed run away crying and people would call me a monster
meerkat stew Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 My friends wife gave me a backhanded compliment saying "good job she was way outta your league" which also hurt. The best response to those kinds of comments from women is straight up in your face ala "For someone out of my league, I sure hit that p*ssy right out of the park" as you make a home run bat swinging motion, then walk off laughing. Shuts them right up every time.
Yukikazi Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 The best response to those kinds of comments from women is straight up in your face ala "For someone out of my league, I sure hit that p*ssy right out of the park" as you make a home run bat swinging motion, then walk off laughing. Shuts them right up every time. Happens that much to you eh? Worst for me.. I just walked up to a girl and asked her how tall she was.. "Too tall for you"
PJKino Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 The best response to those kinds of comments from women is straight up in your face ala "For someone out of my league, I sure hit that p*ssy right out of the park" as you make a home run bat swinging motion, then walk off laughing. Shuts them right up every time. Thing is i dont even think in her mind she was beign mean i think she thought it was a compliment I think women think Men for some reason dont care what you say about their looks
Sam Spade Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 The worst that has happened to me is not to have my calls returned. I'm not aware of any mockery, at least not to my face. I think that the key reason is being completely unapologetic about my intentions.
bac Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 On the positive side, females do everything to improve men's self-esteem and prove their manhood. Most females say that they had orgasm, that sex was great, that sperm was tasty, that he is attractive and other wondefrul things.
meerkat stew Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Happens that much to you eh? Catty comments from women about my bachelor exploits? O hell yes, all the time. Usually from friends' wives.
PJKino Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Catty comments from women about my bachelor exploits? O hell yes, all the time. Usually from friends' wives. What kinda stuff do tjey say? And are u close and on good terms with these women?
meerkat stew Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 What kinda stuff do tjey say? And are u close and on good terms with these women? These are great women whom I love, so it's not as bad as the putdown you experienced, more eyerolls and trying to indoctrinate me into the marriage trap than anything. Got some of it at a NYE party most recently. "When are you going to find a -good- woman OR when are you going to grow up?" as if the women I bring around are less than because we aren't rushing to get married. "That's about your speed" when it's a really hot woman that arouses their female jealousy response. and I don't respond nearly as rudely as I would to something like that woman said to you, telling someone that a particular woman is out of your league is low, real low, yet I have heard it myself before in the past.
PJKino Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 These are great women whom I love, so it's not as bad as the putdown you experienced, more eyerolls and trying to indoctrinate me into the marriage trap than anything. Got some of it at a NYE party most recently. "When are you going to find a -good- woman OR when are you going to grow up?" as if the women I bring around are less than because we aren't rushing to get married. "That's about your speed" when it's a really hot woman that arouses their female jealousy response. and I don't respond nearly as rudely as I would to something like that woman said to you, telling someone that a particular woman is out of your league is low, real low, yet I have heard it myself before in the past. The putdown about league was actually from my friends wife who im close with,which makes me believe women dont think saying things like that about Mens look effects us because i doubt she in her head thought she was being mean or malicious.
Pizzaman81 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 You think that's bad? I got one in high school i just said "hi" and she was like "Is this a thinly veil come on? If so, I must discourage you"
Untouchable_Fire Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 On the positive side, females do everything to improve men's self-esteem and prove their manhood. Most females say that they had orgasm, that sex was great, that sperm was tasty, that he is attractive and other wondefrul things. Yeah, but they only do that when the guy is paying for things.
Jersey Shortie Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Yeah, exactly, women are notorious for this......we are celebate for years and we ugly / average guys finally score with a perfect 10, and we get someone making a remark like that....great job...real mature! What's real mature is average/ugly guys who are only worried about "perfect 10s" or think that it makes them more of a man to be with a "perfect 10". If you measure yourself by the attractiveness of your female partner, you are destined to fail. Do not place that weight and level of unfun on any female. Whether she is hot or not. On the positive side, females do everything to improve men's self-esteem and prove their manhood. Most females say that they had orgasm, that sex was great, that sperm was tasty, that he is attractive and other wondefrul things. Yeap. We certainly do that.
Vertex Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 I've never been directly insulted or mocked... but it probably happens to everyone behind closed doors, at any rate.
Author b52s Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 What's real mature is average/ugly guys who are only worried about "perfect 10s" or think that it makes them more of a man to be with a "perfect 10". If you measure yourself by the attractiveness of your female partner, you are destined to fail. Do not place that weight and level of unfun on any female. Whether she is hot or not. You missing the point and getting off topic here. I was just providing an example dont read into it.
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