samsungxoxo Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Here we go again with the same thread repeated about 100 times... If you're a man listening to online garbage on this, stop and just be yourself. It's the media that's screwing young people's minds....
PinkToes Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 My main reservation is of psychological basis, in that the intrinsic psyche of an authentic 'bad boy' as described in the article would necessarily make healthy intimacy a difficult dynamic to achieve. Think about that. One would need a lot of switches in the breaker box Fair enough, and I think you're right. I'm just thinking that if someone were stuck in the mindset that only bad boy/jerks get the women (not to name names), and they're thinking they ought to morph into one of those, the rebel traits would be a better start. Less shrapnel.
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 and just be yourself. This is also the largest bit of garbage.. its a copout Being themselves dosen't help them.. they have been themselves for years and they don't get anywhere. They need to be their best selves.. they will have to make some adjustments cause the current status quo is NOT working for them. So telling them to maintain that by being themselves is being evil. They need to improve themselves.. not keep trudging along with blinders
samsungxoxo Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) This is also the largest bit of garbage.. its a copout Being themselves dosen't help them.. they have been themselves for years and they don't get anywhere. They need to be their best selves.. they will have to make some adjustments cause the current status quo is NOT working for them. So telling them to maintain that by being themselves is being evil. They need to improve themselves.. not keep trudging along with blinders They're themselves as soon as they stop listening to the media nor worrying about others. If they have to improve on something then that's why there are counselors, psychologists or therapist. But to go on complaining about how women (that's overgeneralizing as everyone is not the same) only like jerks or abusers and keep on asking why, it's because you're focusing too much on others' lives and desperately seeking ideas on what to do. Things come in time but since you're rushing to this, then that explains your failure. If you say ''yes'' to everything and don't talk that much then off course that would bore anyone. No one likes a robot. Edited January 8, 2010 by samsungxoxo
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 They're themselves as soon as they stop listening to the media nor worrying about others. If they have to improve on something then that's why there are counselors, psychologists or therapist. But to go on complaining about how women (that's overgeneralizing as everyone is not the same) only like jerks or abusers and keep on asking why, it's because you're focusing too much on others' lives and desperately seeking ideas on what to do. Things come in time but since you're rushing to this, then that explains your failure. If you say ''yes'' to everything and don't talk that much then off course that would bore anyone. No one likes a robot. So technically you advocate stop listening to anyone that could help them improve.. namely.. all of us at LS. If they want to improve themselves.. go see a doctor or therapist. They complain about the jerks because that's whom they see as most successful. They don't know that you can pickup women w/o being a jerk or a nice guy.. they just haven't figured that out yet. They need to improve themselves to realize this.. a shrink wont help them overcome their lack of confidence or general fear of rejection which they want to avoid at all costs. Until they realize they have to deal with that.. they will be the nice guy that gets nowhere. Telling them to be themselves which is the wussy nice guy doormat is deceitful as it doesn't help them.. you are telling them absolutely nothing useful or anything they haven't heard spouted before. Other common responses that are short, pointless and utterly condescending include: I'm sure you'll find someone. Stop looking and love will find you Just treat her nice Any girl would love to go out with you (just not me) You need to think about what you are telling them.. with lines like this... nothing useful
16thstreet Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You call that overt masculine energy in my neighberhood we call it a dooshbag.. One can be masculine without playing games and acting aloof or indifferent.. Life is hard enough these women who feel a relationship is boring without drama and extreme ups and downs i want to stay far away from.. Nice observation -- agreed!
samsungxoxo Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) I'm basically telling them to stop focusing on others. It's not like the others pay the bills, do grocery or help out in the house. What's with the desperation of finding a date and trying to rush things? What's wrong with therapists or doctors? Off course you won't improve in only one night (impossible) but you will catch up as time passes by. Improvement doesn't happen in one day. You're just overly focused on too many labels. Nice doesn't have to mean wussy robotic person but it doesn't mean you have to go to the extreme of showing off as a drunkard at a party trying desperately to get attention from women. If you can't have common sense to balanced it all, it explains your failure. As far as mind games, I'm out. No time for that (too many dramas is boring). You can't be straight-forward and rely on games or put an act, out.... Edited January 8, 2010 by samsungxoxo
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I'm basically telling them to stop focusing on others. It's not like the others pay the bills, do grocery or help out in the house. What's with the desperation of finding a date and trying to rush things? What's wrong with therapists or doctors? Off course you won't improve in only one night (impossible) but you will catch up as time passes by. Improvement doesn't happen in one day. You're just overly focused on too many labels. Nice doesn't have to mean wussy robotic person but it doesn't mean you have to go to the extreme of showing off as a drunkard at a party trying desperately to get attention from women. If you can't have common sense to balanced it all, it explains your failure. As far as mind games, I'm out. No time for that (too many dramas is boring). You can't be straight-forward and rely on games or put an act, out.... You don't need a doctor or shrink to improve yourself. Why are you suggesting they get professional help when its something they can change easily if they have the motivation to do so.
samsungxoxo Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You don't need a doctor or shrink to improve yourself. Why are you suggesting they get professional help when its something they can change easily if they have the motivation to do so. It's clearly that they aren't motivated if for years, they keep on focusing on others or just sit there waiting to get replies. Next day, it's the same, they're back into their shells.... Anyone can them what how to approach it, but the real action is the time they work on themselves and stop comparing themselves to others nor questionS ''Why does Joe gets girls and I don't''. The more you question, the more boring you sound...
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