mem11363 Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 One day you will look back on this with a huge sigh of relief. You will be with someone you love - someone sane who is not constantly angry/hostile. As for her - she is going to have a hard time finding a guy willing to give her 4 kids and tolerate no birth control. I can't help but being sad at the sight of the objects she left here.
asireen Posted January 17, 2010 Posted January 17, 2010 I can't help but being sad at the sight of the objects she left here. You sound like a whiner and a wimp. Most posters have given the opinion that this is a bad relationship and moving on would be wise. Looks like you crave attention and are trying to keep this conversation going. Why are you trying to justify and perhaps save this hopeless marriage? Her replies clearly prove that. In any case, the exchanges you post with your wife, especially her replies, are quite entertaining to read.
mimidarlin Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 This is tough...big age difference, met on internet, cultural differences. There is a lot to overcome. I am married to an individual from another country and we met on the internet. We were much younger when we married and with only a year age difference. However, I can say that the language and cultural differences can be very stressful and frustrating. Sometimes it's difficult to know where the other person is coming from...is it personality, religion, culture? Though you aren't religious maybe you could try counseling through a church. She may be more open to this approach. The age thing...her clock is a ticking ticking....39 and wants four kids? good luck. Is she fertile? Do you know that the risk for chromosomal abnormalities increase with the age of the woman? (Down's Syndrome). I think this marriage is on a crash course. She has anger issues and she is set in her ways...not open to change.
Author Ultimo12 Posted January 18, 2010 Author Posted January 18, 2010 (edited) You sound like a whiner and a wimp. Most posters have given the opinion that this is a bad relationship and moving on would be wise. Looks like you crave attention and are trying to keep this conversation going. Why are you trying to justify and perhaps save this hopeless marriage? Her replies clearly prove that. In any case, the exchanges you post with your wife, especially her replies, are quite entertaining to read. I am suffering okay? I took this marriage seriously even though I knew she had a bad temper and I do love her still. But I am suffering regarding the current situation. I cannot force you to have empathy, and I understand that the advices seems pointing in the direction of a divorce. But no one marries to divorces, and I am saddened by it. I would just like to be happy. Mimidarling, I am thinking that women can have children until 50... But she does not seem opened to change, despite my attempts. This is what saddens me the most and that I did not know before marriage. Edited January 18, 2010 by Ultimo12
TroyNJ Posted January 18, 2010 Posted January 18, 2010 Small update I said, we need to talk. She said, I knew it. You're coming after me again. I said, take for instance this morning when I woke you up. You hate to be woke up, but your reaction wasn't nice. You were almost hostile. This is a good example of what I can't tolerate in your behavior. Her: That's it, you said you wouldn't come after me again, and you do it. You constantly complain. You're such a liar. I'm out. *packs her things...* And she actually left. 10 hour drive from where I am, she left 20 minutes ago. It's the 4th time she leaves like that. I'm gonna be brutally honest with you, cut your losses now. Change the locks and do not and I repeat do not let her back in! You will thank us all later.
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