ashleigh422 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 So I met this guy online a year ago and we became friends who talked occasionally. Then in October we decided to meet and see what happened. We met and hung out. We hung out casually a few more times and eventually had sex. We continued this sort of relationship for a few weeks. He would come over after he got off work (11:30 pm) and we would eventually have sex. Some really terrible things happened to me one night and he got scared and we stopped seeing each other. The whole time he kept insisting that he really cared about me, but since what happened, he didn’t know how to act around me any longer. Since then, we stayed in contact on phone and text and online, just didn’t meet up When I told him that I was considering trying to work things out with my ex, he immediately disapproved. He and I were friends and he knew all the dirty details of how my ex treated me. So ever since then, he has tried to again pursue something with me. That was 5 weeks ago. I decided that I would set up a date, for 5 weeks out and if we are still talking, etc then we go on a first real “date.” Friday is the day and we are still talking and he still wants to take me out. My only problem with it is that we have amazing sexual chemistry. For me, when I do that with someone it is because I like them and the feelings continue to grow with physical intimacy. He has been making comments about the latter part of the night. Of course I wouldn’t say no because I like him and the chemistry is something real. So now, I am very scared. I talk to him in a sexual way sometimes, because that is just us, but my feelings for him are very real and they grow everyday. He doesn’t really like to talk seriously about feelings, etc. unless we are together, then I can get him to open up. He has some issues about opening up and being hurt, I think. Either way, what I guess I want to know if there is anyway to ask him indirectly if this is just a sexual thing or if he wants it to be more without seeming push but really looking out for myself. I don’t want to get hurt. Since we have already “been” together, is it wrong for me to go backwards, in essence and start over and expect him to as far as the level of intimacy?
Yukikazi Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 You appeared to start off as FWB.. now you want more.. you will have to have the talk with him about what he wants also and go from there.. You may end up in a relationship.. you may not.. you wont know till you get it out in the open and ask
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