promoonly Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Hello, So I need some advice. Badly. Okay, I will give you the entire story. We been dating for over a year. Going on year and half and we moved into an apartment 6 months ago. For the past 3 months there's been a lot of sketchy things going on with her. She met these guys down the hall about five doors down 2 months ago and has been hanging out with them, etc.. I don't know them because I never saw them or was even introduced. I asked her one day if she could introduce me and she said, "no there my friends why should I?". I'm like because why not? I said this because I suspected something was going on because she would hang out with them a lot and not answer my phone calls when she was around them etc.. She would also stay the night down there and then claim to me they were just hanging out and there friends..nothing more. Well, a month ago we broke up and she moved 3 floors above me to the 7th floor with her girlfriend. She stll talks to me, says she loves me, hangs out, still have some intimiacy nights, etc..but then she told me other day she had sex twice with the guy I suspected was going on. She told me before when we broke up that it was too early for her to be with anyone because she loved me etc...but yet she goes out and has sex with this guy.. Now, she tells me last night that she is confused. She loves me and also has feelings for him. She said she wants to know more about him and see him, etc...But yet, she tells me everyday I love you, etc...Granted, were not together right now...But she is leading me on as if Im a backup. Now, friends told me to move on, but it's so HARD to get over that she is seeing another guy let alone having sex with him 5 doors down from me. Im not sure if this guy is even good for her. They have NOTHING in common. I know that for a fact....I just dont know what to do. Should I forget and move on? Wait? Do I still talk to her?? Or cut all contact?
gaudi Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I say forget about her, you do not need a girl like this in your life. What she is doing is wrong. Even if she straight up came out and said she wanted to be back with you, would you even want her after this ?? She wants exactly what you said, to keep you as a backup. Be better than that. Give her nothing. There are far better girls for you out there in the world.
sugarmomma Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 If you didn't have feelings for her you could just screw her and send her on about her way. Unfortunately, you do and I say you have to cut her off. She has no discretion and you only know about one other guy in the building. Who knows, it might be others if she is giving it away like that. NC!
Author promoonly Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 yeah i know. its just so hard. So I guess the best thing is to do is to cut off ties with her and don't talk to her. its going to be hard seeing her on the same floor and not coming to my apartment, but to that guys. ugh
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