ladymistique Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Recently found out through a mutual friend that he is seeing the girl he cheated on me with...... the reason why I left him. I miss him, alot. I still have very strong feelings for him. I am not happy that while I carry all this heartache around, he is living his life with someone and not feeling an ounce of the pain I am feeling. I resent that I am going through the breakup the hard way without some hot distraction to numb the pain. I feel like a loser, actually. Usually, I don't use negative terms when I talk about myself but there you have it.
sean1970 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 (edited) Recently found out through a mutual friend that he is seeing the girl he cheated on me with...... the reason why I left him. Remember, what a cheater is actually saying to you is: -I don't respect you -I can't control myself -I lack courage -I lack character Be thankful you got away from someone like that. Also, tell mutual friend not to talk to you about it... and don't ask. I resent that I am going through the breakup the hard way without some hot distraction to numb the pain. I feel like a loser, actually. Allow me rewrite this please... 'It hurts, but I know that I am going through the breakup the right way; without pointless romantic distractions to temporarily numb the pain. While it is hard to see now, I know this experience will make me stronger. I know I'm not the loser here; he is her problem now.' Yes... that looks much more accurate... Edited January 6, 2010 by sean1970
drew86 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Couldn't agree with you post more Sean, well said
Author ladymistique Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 Remember, what a cheater is actually saying to you is: -I don't respect you -I can't control myself -I lack courage -I lack character Be thankful you got away from someone like that. Also, tell mutual friend not to talk to you about it... and don't ask. So right, so right Sean . I'm going to try to be thankful.... No. I will grit my teeth and BE thankful. And no more angling for info. Allow me rewrite this please... 'It hurts, but I know that I am going through the breakup the right way; without pointless romantic distractions to temporarily numb the pain. While it is hard to see now, I know this experience will make me stronger. I know I'm not the loser here; he is her problem now.' I like the reinterpretation . Thank you for giving me some perspective. I am feeling a bit better now. How are you doing?
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