eternal.denied84 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 my gf broke up with me and i did every possible and so called wrong things(begging,pleading,abusing,making her feel guilty] to get her back but all in vain. now i am in acceptance phase but i would really like a second chance with her. background: ------------------------------------------------ i have been on NC for 15 days after which she called me back.to say sorry. but when i asked to her to get back she denied. then again i said her many bad words..went back on NC for 45 days..this time she called me again but to ask me to remove all her friends off my fb.Now i dont have any single connection with her..all the links are broken. i was in a long distance relationship and the reason for breakup as she claim s/feel is : i disrespected her..made her feel secondary..and never appreciated her. ------------------------------------------------- i am planning to talk to her once for the last time to end it on a good note and to agree with her regarding the breakup and let her know how i feel(though i have already done it million of times).this time i have planned not to ask her to come back..just let her know how i feel and tell her that i respect her feelings. now what should be the best bet to get her back? be on LC and be there for her after talking for the last time. follow complete NC and just drop off your face. or any other strategy you guys know and have got success with.
doushenka Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 But you don't respect her feelings if you want to keep pursuing something and she very pointedly does not. Don't pretend you do. Just move on, mate; you've at least three billion more in the world to meet and court yet...
DenverBachelor Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Why are you posting multiple threads? Go out and have a beer and chill out.
bluestraps Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I f you have a cell phone keep it. Dont change the number , dont buy a new one . if she wants you back she will find you . Dont wait . But keep you eyes open .
ordinary_girl Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 it depends on why she broke up with you. some things can be fixed, others can't
bananaboat11 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I f you have a cell phone keep it. Dont change the number , dont buy a new one . if she wants you back she will find you . Dont wait . But keep you eyes open . Personally... being a dumpee in a former verbally and mentally abusive relationship (me being on he receiving end)... I've seriously contemplated doing such...
New Again Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Dude, you're never getting this girl back. She's over it already, and she's over YOU. Just leave her alone. my gf broke up with me and i did every possible and so called wrong things(begging,pleading,abusing,making her feel guilty] to get her back but all in vain. Abusing and making her feel guilty are surefire ways to boost her confidence that she did the right thing by dumping you. now i am in acceptance phase but i would really like a second chance with her. Your pants are on fire i have been on NC for 15 days after which she called me back.to say sorry. but when i asked to her to get back she denied. OK, this is at least the second time that she has told you she doesn't want to date you. then again i said her many bad words.. Again letting her know she made the right decision. this time she called me again but to ask me to remove all her friends off my fb.Now i dont have any single connection with her..all the links are broken. So this time she's letting you know not only does she not want to date you, she wants nothing to do with you; she doesn't want you involved in any way in her life. i was in a long distance relationship and the reason for breakup as she claim s/feel is : i disrespected her..made her feel secondary..and never appreciated her. It's obvious even to me that you didn't/don't respect her, because: 1. Your verbal abuse 2. Your inability to respect her wishes Probably even more importantly, you can't accept responsibility for your actions. That is a terrible mindset if you're trying to get back together with someone. "She claims/she feels"? Seriously? i am planning to talk to her once for the last time to end it on a good note and to agree with her regarding the breakup and let her know how i feel(though i have already done it million of times).this time i have planned not to ask her to come back..just let her know how i feel and tell her that i respect her feelings. Dude, don't. The best way to show her that you respect her feelings is to NOT contact her yet again. Especially given the way you behaved/treated her on the other occasions that you two spoke, why would she trust this time to be different? Also, she doesn't care how you feel, SHE ALREADY KNOWS how you feel (you've told her a million times), and she doesn't want to hear it again. now what should be the best bet to get her back? She's made her decision, she's already over you, or well on her way to being over you. Just leave her alone and move on. She already has.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 There is no strategy that will work to get her back in this case.
CaliGuy Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Dude, you're never getting this girl back. She's over it already, and she's over YOU. Just leave her alone. Abusing and making her feel guilty are surefire ways to boost her confidence that she did the right thing by dumping you. Your pants are on fire OK, this is at least the second time that she has told you she doesn't want to date you. Again letting her know she made the right decision. So this time she's letting you know not only does she not want to date you, she wants nothing to do with you; she doesn't want you involved in any way in her life. It's obvious even to me that you didn't/don't respect her, because: 1. Your verbal abuse 2. Your inability to respect her wishes Probably even more importantly, you can't accept responsibility for your actions. That is a terrible mindset if you're trying to get back together with someone. "She claims/she feels"? Seriously? Dude, don't. The best way to show her that you respect her feelings is to NOT contact her yet again. Especially given the way you behaved/treated her on the other occasions that you two spoke, why would she trust this time to be different? Also, she doesn't care how you feel, SHE ALREADY KNOWS how you feel (you've told her a million times), and she doesn't want to hear it again. She's made her decision, she's already over you, or well on her way to being over you. Just leave her alone and move on. She already has. This post has CaliGuy's 100% approval. Good job!
Joe Normal Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 The best strategy is to get a new gf or fiancee. If that doesn't work, nothing will.
stillafool Posted January 10, 2010 Posted January 10, 2010 After 45 days or more what "talk" could you possible need to have at this point. It's over. She would have shown you that she wants you back way before now. Forget it and move on. I'm sorry you're hurt.
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