knime32 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 My ex and I of 6 years broke up at the beginning of December. We've pretty much had no contact with each other and he's started seeing someone, but they aren't serious. He called me last week, and I stupidly answered the phone. We talked about our breakup and words that were exchanged and we both apologized. Apparently, neither one of us were happy because of outside forces and pressure in our relationship and a lack of communication and explaining our feelings ultimately led him to end our relationship. He's called me twice since then and we've talked about things and he wants to know if we can keep talking but is confused about what he wants. He says that he's happy and that he sort of likes this new girl that he's talking to but may want a chance at us again but really is confused about what he wants at the moment. The reason that he even found this new girl is because someone set him up on a blind date with her and I think that he is into it because its new and exciting not because its the right thing for him or us. Before we broke up and where our trouble started is when I graduated from college, lost my job that I had, and had to move back in with my mom. Our relationship took a massive step backwards. I became unhappy and bitter at the world and lashed out at everyone for not being able to get a job. Before all of this happend we were talking about moving in together and he talked with friends about proposing to me, now we're here. Is this relationship even worth saving and can it be saved? I'm really lost and confused about what is going on and what to do. I really do love him and care about him and I don't want to see our relationship dwinddle away because of things that were outside of our control. Any advice out there from you experienced people? Should I keep talking to him and work on fixing the problems that were in our relationship even if he isn't sure what he wants or should I just move forward and go back to NC? He wants to keep talking and see where things go with me, but I can't sit back and wait on him, espcecially when he's exploring his feelings for someone else as well. now, do any of you have any opinions on what the new girl represents. Is she something legitimate or is she a filler for what was missing with us for the last few months? Is she something he's interested in because its new and exciting? Is it something that will last? Why is she more important now that our 6 years of history? I would understand a little better if she were a better person than I am...but she's not. I guess if she was, it would be a little easier for me to accept.
xerofate Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to keep you around just in case this other girl doesn't work out, and you are worth so much more then that. Tell him that if he wants to get back with you, and wants to work things out with you, the first thing he needs to do is get rid of her. Talking to you behind her back is wrong. Do yourself a favor, just go NC. If he wants you, you not being around is only going to drive him nuts. If he is just playing games (as my ex was) you'll have your answer in a short period of time.
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