OceanTropic Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Ladies, ever snatched a player? How? Guys, if you're a player, what makes a girl stand out?
meerkat stew Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 The word "player" is an empty, sexist term, no one can agree what it means, and it should go away permanently.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Why would you WANT a player? They get their ego feed from how many women they can add to the tally. I say "next!"
boogieboy Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 What makes a girl stand out is the one who looks like an easy mark.
Woggle Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Why would you WANT a player? They get their ego feed from how many women they can add to the tally. I say "next!" The fact that women are competing with each other is what makes players so attractive to them. If a man can pull it off being a player is the best life for him.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 The fact that women are competing with each other is what makes players so attractive to them. If a man can pull it off being a player is the best life for him. I disagree. I don't find that attractive at all. The guy I'm dating is not a player - and is easily the most attractive (on every level) that I have ever been with. He COULD get other women - but he doesn't mess around. I'd drop his ass flat. I don't have time for that nonsense.
little_bear Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I won over a player by sheer determination I think. I ended up being with him for 3 years and it was one of the worst relationships of my life. He was a horrible boyfriend (very selfish) and I don't think I will ever be with a "player" ever again.
ordinary_girl Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I won over a player by sheer determination I think. I ended up being with him for 3 years and it was one of the worst relationships of my life. He was a horrible boyfriend (very selfish) and I don't think I will ever be with a "player" ever again. I went out with someone briefly whom I suspected to be a player from the start and he turned out to be one. I ditched him after about 2 months, it wasn't even about not trusting him, he was boring and neurotic. I had a flatmate like that too in the past, he must have been a completely useless boyfriend as he was going through girls like no tomorrow. I think a lot of people do this just because they don't have anything else going on in their lives. dull
Author OceanTropic Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 It's not that I want a player, I am just curious how some women end up with men who are so promiscuous. If a man can get any girl, then why does he even have relationships? And if he does have one, why with a particular girl and not another? Simply curiosity.
New_Life08 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I just want to say...I think some men get a bad rap on being a player. I think there are equally as many men and women who play games in the dating world. I think the term is over-used by people who have been hurt, the guy simply is not interested so he is labeled a "player". I have dated a player or two. To me it is someone who you are dating and meet him at a party, to find he is wearing a bandanna around his neck attempting to hide the hickeys received from another woman. At this time I was only about 18, so I was hurt and confused. I guess my attraction to him was the challenge of being "the one" who he fell for. But, after that, I was never intimate with him again. I think another type of player is someone who will not admit to opposite sex "friends" the seriousness of a current relationship. Not wanting to completely close the door on other prospects. I guess there is a part of us that hopes it will change. I think the second one is the most disheartening because their true feelings are a mystery and keeps us confused. At least the first one I mentioned is blatant proof it is time to move on.
ordinary_girl Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I think a lot of people that muck about like this get used to it too much and lose the ability to settle with one person or to remain faithful. my 'ex' was looking for someone special but that woman would have had to put up with his sexual exploits, have interest in group sex etc. having sex with 100s of people requires a certain mindset, I am not really sure how they get from that to being monogamous and settle down. I think once sex becomes a sport like this it's hard to turn back. it becomes a habit to chase something new. that's how I see it from men I know who sleep with lots of women
TheLoneSock Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Ladies, ever snatched a player? How? Guys, if you're a player, what makes a girl stand out? Does this mean that any guy who answers this question would have to be a self-proclaimed player?
Woggle Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I disagree. I don't find that attractive at all. The guy I'm dating is not a player - and is easily the most attractive (on every level) that I have ever been with. He COULD get other women - but he doesn't mess around. I'd drop his ass flat. I don't have time for that nonsense. You will most likely get bored of him. Women want what they can't have and when they have it they don't want it anymore.
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 You will most likely get bored of him. Women want what they can't have and when they have it they don't want it anymore. You know what's funny? He has dark, cynical moments where he sounds exactly like you. This sounds like something he would say. This, and that women can't love for life. I like to say those are his "Woggle moments."
Author OceanTropic Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 lol good one LoneStock, I actually never thought of that, maybe they have friends who are players and understand them? haha i never realized
sparkle Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I've been dating a "player" for a year now. That's how we met...and we've been dating since that day. A funny story for another thread, another day. As for your question, remaining a bit elusive and mysterious, and learning his game, and playing the player can help. Until the tables are turned, and he's chasing you instead.
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