ecm Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Hi I am kind of at a loss for words, in an empowered sort of way. I hope someone has some insight or similar experiences that could help me understand what took place tonight. Soooo, I've had this 5 year on and off CP relationship with a guy who I was crazy about. He has a history of pulling a houdini or going MIA on me. Then, I would flip out, act crazy, etc. Whatever, he acted like a p*ssy, he deserved to be treated like that Recently, we texted/ spoke on the phone b/c my period is a little over a week late. I'm not too alarmed b/c it's been weird for the past few months. I've done 2 test and they are fine, so I'm not worried at all. In our phone conversation, he started going on about "well, we can't do this, b/c you'll want something more than what I'm prepared to give and some other bs". So, I told him "that possibility is off the table". Then tonight he texted something similar. I basically said all of these things ignoring that I've told him I don't want anymore, even tho that may not be 100% true.) Tonight, he got on my nerves a little bit, so I sent him a reminder text: I said "don't you listen? I told you that I am no longer an option to you, so the fact that you don't "want" this doesn't matter anymore. " Oh, boy did all hell break loose! Here's his text back: (btw- he's a little paranoid and untrusting-lol) "Dude You've lied and manipulated me for years. I don't believe half of what you say and think you'll do or say anything to keep me around. I despise this and almost think u would do this on purpose. I know I'm imperfect, but you need to lose this obsession. Ruin someone else's life" Ok, I won't bore you with the rest of our back and forth, but basically here is my question: If you are trying to end it with someone, why do you flip out when they agree? I'm serious! I think he wasn't expecting it b/c normally I'd react differently. It's probably his ego. But has anyone had similar experiences??? It is just crazy to me, b/c I'd say ok, phew! That was easy. Instead he's flipping out, sending me all kinds of crazy texts.
alphamale Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 you need to go into strict NC if you don't want to see him anymore. all this going back and forth is a waste of time
D-Lish Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Essentially, when you agreed with him, you took back the control from him. I am sure that made him crazy - as he is now demonstrating. Now, if you want to keep that power, follow through with the NC, and be diligent about it. Don't get drawn into an argument, don't respond, just be 100% silent.
Author ecm Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 thanks, guys! It's so bad, but I feel so much better that he didn't get to pull a houdini on me. I feel like I am bad/evil for being happy! I don't think I ever want to feel powerless in that situation again. I guess I'm acting like to a 12 year old girl for asking (or even caring) but if he didn't care, he wouldn't be flipping out, right? (I am prepared to walk away, I just would like to know that the 5 years weren't a COMPLETE waste ???
boogieboy Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I just would like to know that the 5 years weren't a COMPLETE waste ??? Sorry to break it to you, it was a complete waste since it wasnt a satisfying relationship for you. 5 years you let him go on and off with you? Too bad you wasted 5 years. I hope you learned from it.
LovelyDaze Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 He sounds mad because you are not crying and begging to keep you two together. 5 long years of back and forth business DOES have to end somehow. As suggested, keep NC and stay away from the drama.
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