Lucky555 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 so here is an update on the guy. I finally got tired of waiting for him so i decided to have the talk. We have known each other for a couple years. We recently met up and things went very well. The talk consisted of me asking if we should continue into dating. the first time we went out i thought it was more like a catch up and i didnt think he would show me as much interest as he did. SO what do u all think of this. He told me we should continue dating but he also said he didn't want to hurt me and that he was worried about my lack of long term relationships...Um what? (I have been working on developing a career and he and I have mostly been talking through out a few years, I have dated others, and I have had one boyfriend). He also is three years older than myself. However, the first time we met up he did want to sleep with me and we had NO TALK of him and I. I am a bit frustrated because he didn't set a date of when we were getting together. I also am frustrated because I had to bring up the talk about relationships. I did this early on because he tried to sleep with me on our first meeting. We have known each other and are comfortable with each other but as friends. Now that he tried to be intimate with me i wanted to let him know im not looking for short term thing. so now i am waiting for him to ask me out again. Umm if he was really interested in me wouldn't he have made plans when we had the talk? How long should I give him. It sounds like he does want a relationship and it does sound like he wants to date me. It seems to me that he is trying to play it really cool..why? Suggestions?
sassygurl129 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I think you've pretty much answered your own question. He doesn't want to hurt you, now he's just making excuses. The way I see it is that if he is interested in you, he'd be trying a lot harder. Why not trying to move on and not initiate any contact and see if he contacts you instead? Bring him to you, and not yourself to him. I mean in the end, if he wants you, he will try to make you his. Don't get yourself worked up over it, to me, it sounds like he's not worth all your pain.
RA1 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I'm confused by your reference to an "update". I have no idea what the background may be. You say he wanted to have sex with you on your first meeting -- that does not not mean he's interested in you other than for the obvious. He comes over to me as a normally horny guy who will have sex with anyone that lets him but he has no interest in you beyond that.
Left in a Lurch Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I always liked when people would point out a lack of a long term relationship being a concern, what a crock. My response was their ability to continuously fail in long term relationships scared me because obviously they got bored after a while, or became boring themselves to people they were dedicated to and clearly their happiness was tied to being in a relationship which scared them into prematurely jumping into a relationship with people they were doomed to fail with. Breakup or divorce was inevitable with these girls and their history proved they were not made for the long haul. I told one girl based on her history we would likely be living together for 5 years before we broke up, but based on mine at least she wouldn't have to look for a new home when I got tired of her crap like all the other guys before me did.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 well i will give him a week to contact me. If he doesn't contact me then i will see it as over. I know i have a lot of opportunities and there are plenty of guys out there..its a matter of weeding through them and finding a decent guy.
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