Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Please help! I can't focus on anything else but my pain!
bananaboat11 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Please help! I can't focus on anything else but my pain! Right now, there is an emotional void within and yes, it is so painful. Try not to focus on it... fill it with something else that is positive... a friend or 3... your work... a hobby or 2. Start going to the gym early in the AM.
jonjon Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I am new here and have been reading the forums for a few days now. I know that sometimes when things are bad it makes the day seem impossible. I am not telling you to repress your feelings. But don't let yourself become dominated by them. You have a job to do. Concentrate. Maybe go get a nice lunch with a co worker. Don't let the hurt of someone dominate your life. If there is something i've learned recently is that no matter how much you care about a SO, you have to not let yourself get hurt either, no matter how hard that might be
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 I'm tempted to call him and ask him where things are. He hasn't said anything, we haven't officially broken up. He got mad at me for being jealous and he says he needs time. It's been almost a week and no word from him. I know he's been chatting and exchanged #'s with the girl on his facebook and they probably have met up by now. All these things are driving me insane. I'm just a wreck.
ginyi1111 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I can imagine how you feel...all the hurt and betrayal.. Cry all you want, talk all you want to your friends that care..but most importantly remember that the pain will pass, and that he doesnt deserve for you to have another crappy day because he is crappy.
RedDevil66 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Why not contact him to find out if it's over or not?! The not knowing is worse right?
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 Why not contact him to find out if it's over or not?! The not knowing is worse right? We finally broke up. Now I am just falling apart. It's a good thing to know now but I'm still feeling like I got run over by a bus.
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 I can imagine how you feel...all the hurt and betrayal.. Cry all you want, talk all you want to your friends that care..but most importantly remember that the pain will pass, and that he doesnt deserve for you to have another crappy day because he is crappy. The worst thing is that he hasnt owned up to his online cheating. No explanation.
ginyi1111 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Maybe to him it isnt considered as cheating. Maybe it's more like meeting a new friend to him...whatever it is, it doesnt matter. He broke up with you. You are entitled to be mad, sad, confused, hurt and just about all emotions known to mankind. Take your time to go through these emotions. But seriously go NC. That is the only way to heal. Seems like he is not being honest with you and no matter how much you try to squeeze the truth from him, he might never give it to you. Just like my ex...and in time, you will be able to persuade yourself that you no longer wanna know..
sean1970 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 There are very few things we can say to you right now that will make you feel better. Know that you are with friends and we will help you where we can. You have to do the heavy lifting however; right now that is knowing that you deserve better; believing it comes later...
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 Hi All, I've calmed down a bit after breaking down at work. It hurts that someone you love doesn't want to be around you anymore. It hurts how the life you knew is no longer there. I guess this is the point where I pick up the pieces and start living without him. It's scary but I have to toughen up.
liveinhope Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 dear brokenhearted girl i, as do most others on here understand the pain you are going through as some of us are also going through it now, or recently. there really isnt anything that will make u feel better but time. and even then that feels like a long long way away for you at the moment. i too am like you at work or with anything. you just cant focus on anything but how much pain you feel and it can be so painful that you feel it physically, right in the pit of your stomach with the associated nausea. the thing is i think you do need time to 'wallow' and feel the pain but then the time between will get longer. then he will pop into your mind and you will think 'wow, i wasnt thinking about him for xxx mins/hours/days'. i hope that the days come quickly then the weeks then the months. then it will be summer again and you can get out and enjoy the sunshine (unless you are already somewhere sunny of course;)) take care
Author Brokenhearted_girl Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 dear brokenhearted girl i, as do most others on here understand the pain you are going through as some of us are also going through it now, or recently. there really isnt anything that will make u feel better but time. and even then that feels like a long long way away for you at the moment. i too am like you at work or with anything. you just cant focus on anything but how much pain you feel and it can be so painful that you feel it physically, right in the pit of your stomach with the associated nausea. the thing is i think you do need time to 'wallow' and feel the pain but then the time between will get longer. then he will pop into your mind and you will think 'wow, i wasnt thinking about him for xxx mins/hours/days'. i hope that the days come quickly then the weeks then the months. then it will be summer again and you can get out and enjoy the sunshine (unless you are already somewhere sunny of course;)) take care Thank you. You know I thought that I wouldn't feel as devastated as I am now because the break up was due to him not wanting to commit and his online activities but it still does hurt. In the back of my mind I am going through all that happened and feel a bit responsible cuz I wasn't all that he wanted. I know it's a bad thing to say about myself but I can't help it. I just hit rock bottom. I, too, am hoping for summer again... It's all doom and gloom where I'm at.
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