Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Some of you may know my story...My ex broke up with me nearly one month ago now...she was confused, said she didnt know if she loved me in the same way anymore. We share a house together and have been in contact throughout the break up. We've never argued or been bitter. After a week of begging and pleading I decided to be positive - not show her I was hurting...showing her the strong independant person she fell in love with. Anyway, last night we both stayed at the house togeather...It was lush - just to have her here. We didn't talk about the relationship and just chilled out and talked about little things instead. We cuddled lots, she cares so much about me and I care so much about her. She said she enjoyed being here and misses me...I said the same. Now im just confused...Is she regretting it? Is there still a chance? I'm not going to ask her because I dont want to scare her away...I am going to continue with my life and spending time with my friends and being strong... I guess I hope she is realising we are soooo good together... Has anyone ever been in a similar situation?
Author Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 Well today has been a turn around - she is now more of a mess and doesnt know how to react to me - I think she wants or needs me to be sad and depressed...instead she cant understand why im not (well at least not to her face). Things have turned around and now I feel like im supporting and helping her, when she was the one who done the dumping. Unsure of my next move now....carry on playing it cool? tell her how i really feel? carry on supporting her or try backing off a bit? Confused!
willNYC Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 sorry to say but she was probably *confused* over another guy that came along that caught her attention. she probably slept with him too. when she finds out you are the better of the two she will come back and want you again. but that has to be cool with you. one mans opinion
sean1970 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Anyway, last night we both stayed at the house togeather...It was lush - just to have her here. We didn't talk about the relationship and just chilled out and talked about little things instead. Things have turned around and now I feel like im supporting and helping her, when she was the one who done the dumping. How things can change in 6 hours... Emotional motrin you are. She will continue to do this until something else comes along. Unsure of my next move now....carry on playing it cool? tell her how i really feel? carry on supporting her or try backing off a bit? Treading water like this is never healthy and you have been doing it since your original post. You told her how your felt and you are in the same place. If you keep looking to her for direction and validation, you will remain frustrated and disappointed. If you have not already, read the page in my signature.
Author Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 Thanks Sean...checking it out now
Oh Moe Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I went through a similar break, I was dumped and wanted answers as much as begged for 2-3 days then no contact for a full week, then she called nearly everyday. The difference was my ex refused to see me because she was afraid she would change her mind, until this day she still can't say she doesn't love me, well we haven't talked in 2 months other then the bump in that didn't go well. She would sent the occasional text you OK, did you cal and so on and I even told her I didn't want to talk. Some on here were so right on that I helped her get over me, she was already bopping other guys only 2-3 weeks after the break that I thought was so perfect. She already had her old life back, living with a unemployed CrackHead and knowing it. She's fallen because she doesn't deal with anything any longer. I hope she's this way because of me, I know and have been told she was so happy with me and she is miserable she told me so only a week ago and I had to be cruel as hell to her or I would be in a nut ward. I was about to marry this women and loved her more then anything in the entire world but she couldn't care about my family. No Contact until she comes back and say somethings that have meaning, actions not words.
Author Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 I've read the post - Thanks for the advice. Its just hard because you try and apply it to your situation but my situation is so complex.... Thanks for the encouraging words everyone!
sean1970 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I've read the post - Thanks for the advice. Its just hard because you try and apply it to your situation but my situation is so complex.... Thanks for the encouraging words everyone! What exactly are your living conditions...? Who has rights to the home?
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