1life8love1trust Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 So its a new year and I have past the 1 month hump of no contact and I must say I kinda feel good. Its about three months now, since she decided to leave me for another dude and it was a tough road. And all you new guys who have recently got dumped, we were together for 3 years and of course it was hard. I figured I would share some stuff that I did and currently doing to get through this. 1st... No contact!!!! Extremely important. Why? Because no one wants an annoying pest. Truth is they left you whether you agree with it or not. Now hold your horses, there is a reason for this. One is that if you leave them alone they will get curious and check up on you. (Funny thing is, the first time I did no contact she called me. At that time I was still needy and desperate so I crashed.) That leads to reason number two. Get yourself together. You need to get out of that shock your in from the break up. You need to regain control of your world. Two facts here. 1 You will not die because of this. Plus they are still live themselves. I know I am going to get a lot of haters for this but what are your chances of reconciling with them if you are dead. So don't do anything stupid. 2 How are they going to consider getting back with you if you don't value yourself? Look a you, understand how you can better yourself, and spend all your free times with friends. Work, Work out, and party! More in the days to come for now understand the need for no contact. Do I still think of her? Yes, of course every time I am not doing anything, so whats my solution? Stay busy. Easier said then done? Yes of course, but you can stay busy. Quick note. Many people will tell you to just move one and why consider getting back together with them, but I freshly got dumped so I know how irrational the mind set is. So I know this will help. Also I read and am still reading most of the books about this and I'm just sharing what I learned. So Warrior Princess Monk, you know who you are and the bachelor from a state in Texas please go easy on me. LOL I love you guys.
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