michelle91 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Hello all i am new here and need some help asap.. My boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years .. he has no family around where we live and it has never been a problem before. During the holidays his parents came from out of state for a week, we had a big fight tuesday night last week in front of his parents, weds tho everything was fine and it was like it never happen..well thursday we both went our seperate ways (i went to visit family about 3 hours away,he did the same but a seperate way)..when i came back home sat he acted distant saying he thought we needed a break..it was weird being around me..this and that.. i thought he was just being annoying about it not serious but apparently he is..i've been crying since sunday and he just doesnt care he is telling me hes no longer in love with me, but expects to stay around for awhile due to financial reasons (we live together)..he says he has no money right now and nowhere to go.. and hes sorry he doesnt want to hurt me but hes not in love with me and were not meant for each other. I keep looking pathetic and begging for another chance and he says ok all the time then says its not going to be the same, i also dont want him just saying ok hell try to make it work only because he wants to stay here because he has no money and nowhere to go right now...I dont know what to do, i feel sick to my stomach. We went by my fathers earlier who invited him to come over this weekend (i havent mentioned anything yet to anyone) and he said he would go.. then as were walking out hes like "this feels so horrible" idk what to do? I need help..I feel like im having a breakdown, everything was fine last week..he was calling me saying he missed me so much and loves me blah blah blah (cus i was out of town for a day).. i just dont know what to do now.
xerofate Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Ok. Repeat after me. It is not your job to take care of him anymore. He made that decision. He decided he wanted a break. You have NO reason to still be taking care of him, to still be around him. In fact, doing so is hurting your chances of a reconciliation. I've done the "we've got no money, lets just stay here even though we broke up" thing. It does NOT end well. does not does not does NOT end well. Please, for your sake, ask yourself: Is this what YOU want? Or is what HE wants? Is he hurting you, or is he helping you? HE wants to stay in the house, HE doesn't think he loves you anymore, HE has made these decisions. But YOU are the one who is suffering because HE doesn't have any money. My advice: Kick his ass out. It is not YOUR problem that he has no money. You do NOT have to take care of him anymore. He made that decision. I know this may sound harsh, and it is probably not what you want to hear, but you have GOT to realize that him sticking around is NOT good for you. I'm sorry.
GrayClouds Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 read the following it will help: The No Contact Guide So you want a second chance? .
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