D Day Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 ok i have been doing this now for 3 days now and it is so hard. But i THINK it is working he is a little uneasy. i had the kids last week and hedid not call or text me AT ALL. this week i dont have the kids and he has called me 3 times today and has beentexting me all night about were i have been hope the date went good it started at 11:15 and is still going i have told him goodnight 4 times WHAT DOES THIS MEAN do i talk to him anybody been here:mad:
LisaUk Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Hi I'm sorry I can't really offer you any advice on your situation as when my ex left, he left, cut me off completely after 18 years together, not so much as a Christmas card. I didn't want you to think you are alone though, so I thought I would reply. The only advice I can offer is to google divorce busting, their website has the 180 list and to follow it to the letter. I guess until he is saying he wants to come home, is how long you follow it. I think I read your first post, are you the lady whose H has been coming over for sex, but wants to live seperately? Have you suggested MC to your H? I hate to say this but have you done some digging to see if he is having an affair? Sometimes people "cake eat" that is keep you hanging on in case things don't work out with the OW. It could be an explanation for his contradictory behaviour? Keep posting hun, we're listening.
Author D Day Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 yes i did find the 180 list and have been following it and it is getting to him i think he came over today we have allot going on right now were i have to see him unfortunately and was being all touchy feely and wanted sex and i said no ask your girlfriend. i did do digging he started talking to her when we decided to separated because this is what if he sees if this is what he wants (me or the dating life) he does keep telling everybody he does not know what he want:(
LisaUk Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 So he was having an affair before he left, or he has started dating after he left, but is keeping you hanging on until he decides what he wants? Take a look at the Marriage builders site and maybe also go see an MC on your own for advice on this one, what your H is doing is so disrespectful and so wrong, you poor thing, I don't know how you are holding it together.
Author D Day Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 :(yes he started after i took off my ring and said go and see if this is what u want he is confused. we r all most done building a house together and allot of other thing he has never had to handle money and this is the first time he has and he is depressed (on med.) i am not making excuses for him he does tell me i deserve better
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