dark1san Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 So my fiance has this friend who's been having problems with her boyfriend she lives with, the other nite after being out for new years eve we're driving through our town and see my fiance's friend at the guy she lost her virginity to's house. And my fiance was like, "oh **** that's not a good sign at all!" And I was like, "Why?" And she told me her friend and her friend's bf have been having problems and her friend has been spending alot of time with this guy since the problems have started and that she was going to get herself into trouble. I know if I have a problem with my fiance I'm not going to go run to an ex for comfort just because I feel that is asking for trouble. And my fiance feels the same way. Does anyone else feel that this is asking for trouble?
Space Ritual Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Thgis is loosely translated as... Your fiance's friend is cheating on her BF with her ex. That's obvious... This is how the justifications begin in a cheating experience.. "He's helping me with my BF problem, and being I used to date him, He understands me more than my current BF". That line is as a fresh as a Foghat Concert. she's banging her ex. so now the question becomes....is this guy who is getting cheated on a friend of yours????
Author dark1san Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 No he's not, and I know it's none of my business, just I found it not cool.
alphamale Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 this is why we don't stay in contact with the ex
Boundary Problem Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 her friend has been spending alot of time with this guy since the problems have started A third person won't solve the problems within a relationship. Sounds like she is distracting herself from her problems in her relationship with the new guy. The fact he is an ex is not the issue. The fact he is another man is the issue, and she is running to him when she has problem. The fact that he is an ex just gives him an edge over other men. But if she wants comfort, she would find it elsewhere, even if the ex was unavailable. Not a healthy way to be dealing with problems in a relationship. If anything it adds a new problem to an already difficult situation.
Javelin Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Does anyone else feel that this is asking for trouble? If you have to ask, then it's probably not a good sign.
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