phineas Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 siblings can be diametrically opposed Just about every pair of brothers I know close in age (including my one friend that has a twin) are like night & day. I'm two yrs apart from my sister & if I had to drive cross country with her i'd buy a shovel the second we hit the desert states.
threebyfate Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 shadow, IMO, different people mature at different rates. As well, no one can pick family. They just "are". Perhaps he'll mature with time, perhaps not, but in the interim, try to get along with him. You don't ever have to love him, just be civil and friendly. Also, keep in mind that your b/f is probably on his best behaviour, to a degree. As well, not all guys show their crude side, when with women.
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 (edited) BF and crew (brother + brother's friends + bf's roommates) had a party last night. It was fun and I tried to be friendlier to his bro, but I'm worried I may have been a bit obnoxious. We started playing Kings and I got pretty drunk because I had already had some vodka earlier. We got on the subject of height, and I guessed one of the guy's heights correctly at 6'2". Then his brother asked me to guess his height and I blurted out 5'9". His brother shot me a look of disbelief. I said "5'8"....5'10". He informed me that he's 6'. I was kind of shocked because he looks a lot shorter to me, but sure enough when he stood back to back against the 6'2" guy he was about two inches shorter. Because I was drunk, I started teasing him a little and kept insisting he couldn't possibly be 6'. Sigh. What was I thinking? I wasn't trying to be mean. It's just the affectionate teasing way I'm used to interacting with guys from growing up with a brother close in age. I really hope I didn't offend him. Anyway, I've decided he's not the ass I originally thought. He's OK. I'll admit that part of the reason I feel so uncomfortable around him is because he's really hot. My bf's cute, but not as hot as his brother. Just to be clear I don't have a crush on him at all. He's the kind of guy I'd never date because our personalities are really incompatible; not to mention the fact that he's just a baby. Still the fact that I'm slightly physically attracted to him makes me uncomfortable. I try really hard to conceal/suppress it, almost going to the opposite extreme by avoiding looking at him, etc. And don't worry, guys. It's nothing more than a mild physical attraction, and that's where it's staying. I'm just trying to explain my slight discomfort in his presence. Edited January 6, 2010 by shadowplay
SadandConfusedWA Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Just about every pair of brothers I know close in age (including my one friend that has a twin) are like night & day. I'm two yrs apart from my sister & if I had to drive cross country with her i'd buy a shovel the second we hit the desert states. My bro is 3 years younger than me but we get along great. Talk all the time, go out together, take trips etc. We have very similar personalities and think the same. He had a gf recently that I didn't like (my bro has a successful business and I felt like she was somewhat of a golddigger). Anyway, he took my dislike for her seriously and ended up dumping her soon after. I am just saying that: a) sibiling close in age can be similar b) it is a very dengerous indeed to mention any dislike for the brother.
MissJoness Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I can't stand the male species when they aren't fully adults yet, especially the teen years. They are incredibly dumb, and immature. Not only that but very superficial when it comes to women's looks. I simply can't bear to be around them. They trigger a lot of things for me
MissJoness Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 BF and crew (brother + brother's friends + bf's roommates) had a party last night. It was fun and I tried to be friendlier to his bro, but I'm worried I may have been a bit obnoxious. We started playing Kings and I got pretty drunk because I had already had some vodka earlier. We got on the subject of height, and I guessed one of the guy's heights correctly at 6'2". Then his brother asked me to guess his height and I blurted out 5'9". His brother shot me a look of disbelief. I said "5'8"....5'10". He informed me that he's 6'. I was kind of shocked because he looks a lot shorter to me, but sure enough when he stood back to back against the 6'2" guy he was about two inches shorter. Because I was drunk, I started teasing him a little and kept insisting he couldn't possibly be 6'. Sigh. What was I thinking? I wasn't trying to be mean. It's just the affectionate teasing way I'm used to interacting with guys from growing up with a brother close in age. I really hope I didn't offend him. Anyway, I've decided he's not the ass I originally thought. He's OK. I'll admit that part of the reason I feel so uncomfortable around him is because he's really hot. My bf's cute, but not as hot as his brother. Just to be clear I don't have a crush on him at all. He's the kind of guy I'd never date because our personalities are really incompatible; not to mention the fact that he's just a baby. Still the fact that I'm slightly physically attracted to him makes me uncomfortable. I try really hard to conceal/suppress it, almost going to the opposite extreme by avoiding looking at him, etc. And don't worry, guys. It's nothing more than a mild physical attraction, and that's where it's staying. I'm just trying to explain my slight discomfort in his presence. I'm worried that the attraction will grow
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 I'm worried that the attraction will grow I honestly doubt that would happen. It would be completely self-defeating for me to have a crush on him, so my brain won't even go there.
burning 4 revenge Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I honestly doubt that would happen. It would be completely self-defeating for me to have a crush on him, so my brain won't even go there. what if he came onto you when you with him alone
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 what if he came onto you when you with him alone First off that's not going to happen because he has a girlfriend and I seriously doubt he'd do something like that to his brother. If he did, I'm 99.9% that I'd be totally disgusted and immediately push him away. I'll leave that .1% just because I have a history of impulsive behavior. I strongly believe, and hope, I've matured past that. Yet it hasn't been tested, so how can I say 100%?
alphamale Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 First off that's not going to happen because he has a girlfriend ... how can he be that gross if he's got a gf?
MissJoness Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 First off that's not going to happen because he has a girlfriend and I seriously doubt he'd do something like that to his brother. If he did, I'm 99.9% that I'd be totally disgusted and immediately push him away. I'll leave that .1% just because I have a history of impulsive behavior. I strongly believe, and hope, I've matured past that. Yet it hasn't been tested, so how can I say 100%? Is his girlfriend super hot?
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 Is his girlfriend super hot? Nah, she's cute, but not as hot as he is.
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 (edited) how can he be that gross if he's got a gf? What do you mean? He's not gross in looks, just sometimes demeanor. His girlfriend is a sweetheart and they seem pretty happy together. Although last night he had an old female friend visit and stay over from back home (his girlfriend wasn't there). I thought it was a bit strange because he was flirting really heavily with her, kept touching her legs and face. I even overheard them say to each other "I love you" but I think it was in a more platonic way. My bf says they've been friends for awhile but never dated simply because they've never been single at the same time, although they're attracted to each other. If I were his girlfriend, I would NOT be cool with his behavior. Edited January 6, 2010 by shadowplay
burning 4 revenge Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 What if he whipped it out and it was a strong nine "
Author shadowplay Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 What if he whipped it out and it was a strong nine " Gross, no. Now I'm 100%.
alphamale Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Nah, she's cute, but not as hot as he is. so, he's good looking and he's learned he can get away with being an ass. what else is new?
boogieboy Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Not only that but very superficial when it comes to women's looks. I simply can't bear to be around them. They trigger a lot of things for me Miss Jones, no one is more superficial about your looks as yo uare...have you see the titles of all the threads you started? Anyway, I've decided he's not the ass I originally thought. He's OK. I'll admit that part of the reason I feel so uncomfortable around him is because he's really hot. Still the fact that I'm slightly physically attracted to him makes me uncomfortable. I kinda disappointed in you Shadow that you hid this piece of info in your first post. Now I have to question if youre telling the whole truth in all of your posts.
Johnny M Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Alpha was born in Sri Lanka Some people call it Ceylon There are alpha males in Sri Lanka?? Kinda hard to imagine one working in a call center
Johnny M Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Just about every pair of brothers I know close in age (including my one friend that has a twin) are like night & day. I'm two yrs apart from my sister & if I had to drive cross country with her i'd buy a shovel the second we hit the desert states. Just because they seem like night and day and can't stand each other does not mean they are diametrically opposed to each other. I don't get along with my brother....to a point that the only time I speak to him is when I call my parents and he picks up (he's younger and still lives at home). But even I have to admit that we do have many similar personality traits, which is likely part of the reason we don't get along.
MissJoness Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Miss Jones, no one is more superficial about your looks as yo uare...have you see the titles of all the threads you started? I'm only hard on myself tho. Not on other ppl looks
Author shadowplay Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 I kinda disappointed in you Shadow that you hid this piece of info in your first post. Now I have to question if youre telling the whole truth in all of your posts. Well, I didn't think it was even relevant until I examined the cause of my discomfort.
Author shadowplay Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 Last night I was really uncomfortable around his bro, and it wasn't because I felt attracted to him. It's just that he almost completely ignores me. He's so unfriendly. What made me feel worse is one of my bf's roommates brought home the girl he's seeing and the brother was super friendly to her. Maybe it was partly that she's a lot more outgoing/bubbly than I am and probably cuter as well, but he could still make some effort. I have been trying to talk to him a bit, but he's unresponsive. I just get the sense he dislikes me for some reason, like I'm not at all his type of person. This would make sense since I'm like his brother, and he and his brother don't have much in common.
threebyfate Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 shadowplay, don't go there. You know what I'm talking about and if you don't, I can explain it with the acronym of "EUM".
Star Gazer Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 shadowplay, don't go there. You know what I'm talking about and if you don't, I can explain it with the acronym of "EUM". It's not really EUM. Shadow has a history of getting involved with the guy who's closest to the one she's involved with. Don't know why, but I'm seeing a pattern emerging.
Author shadowplay Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 shadowplay, don't go there. You know what I'm talking about and if you don't, I can explain it with the acronym of "EUM". I'm not interested in his brother at all. The main thing is I don't want him to dislike me since they're really close. I've had this problem before of my SO's relatives disliking me (despite my efforts to be friendly) and it never ends pretty.
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