fral945 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 IME a woman considers something romantic when you do nice things for her or show gestures towards her without her having to ask or tell you. This seems to include things such as texts, calls, flowers, cards, love notes, candlelit dinners, putting away dishes, taking out the trash, having plans for an evening with her, etc. I see it as essentially a form of mind reading (which my current GF says I do well). What is your definition?
threebyfate Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 IMO, showing someone that they rock your world, through both words and actions.
carhill Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 My stbx once thought my serving her B in B on her day off was romantic, especially if I garnished the plate with a flower from the garden. Women may differ in opinion, but I don't think doing women's 'chores' for them is romantic. Loving, for sure.
Clep Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I like it when my guy does things that let's me know he is thinking of me in a positive light when we are not together. When we are together I like it when he is very affectionate. I like it when he does things with me that are things I enjoy, not always things he enjoys. If he keeps up the mutual ass kissing with me life is good. Doesn't really matter what it is, but the thought that really matters.
anne1707 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Women may differ in opinion, but I don't think doing women's 'chores' for them is romantic. Loving, for sure. Agree totally. Because it's almost saying "look at me, I am doing your housework" when in reality the housework is the responsibility of both. It's as if the woman should be grateful that the man does some housework when it should be shared anyway. Romance is about appreciation and making an effort for each other - not taking each other for granted e.g. a surprise small gift such as a book or CD you know they will love, or even getting their favourite chocolate bar on the way home from work, as well as things like special dinners or trips away. Whatever it is though, it must be done because you want to do it and not because you think you should.
carhill Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 LOL, if my stbx had ever pulled the cord on the lawn mower, my wanger would surely have stood to attention Seriously though, the critical disconnect was not hearing each other when we communicated our desires for romantic things. I *loved* breakfast in bed. My stbx *loved* me sitting quietly in the room while she watched American Idol
anne1707 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 You're right Carhill, it goes both ways. All jobs etc in running and maintaining the home should be shared fairly. Shame I get hayfever so I can't mow the lawn but then my H insists that as reds are not darks then they must be whites when it comes to him doing the laundry. Shame he doesn't like pink shirts As for the disconnect - romance should be something that brings you closer together and I don't quite think watching Simon Cowell does that for me!
Romance Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 My definition of something romantic is something done by surprise that is a nice gesture and a gesture that is meant to show love. Something that is done just the two of you. Just things someone can do to show their love and how much they care.
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