CoastalGirl Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) I have known this guy for about 4 months, but we had only recently started talking the past couple of weeks. I have been observing him and listening to the things he says. I wrote him an email about it and sent it to him yesterday I was so pissed. He has said that he wants to take things slow to see if we are compatible. We have messed around, but have NOT had sex he says we are "close intimate friends". He also told me that Im cute and that he wasnt saying that I didnt have a chance with him because Im cute. Usually in a convesation I ask questions about him he doesnt ask questions about me which I take it as he isnt that interested. He invited me out to the movies one day last week and we went, but he didnt invite me anywhere since then so I also take that as a sign he isnt interested. So in my email I say all of this and tell him that I see all of this as he doesnt see me as date able, but definitely good enough to sleep with him. So I text him that I sent him an email so he reads it and texts me back and says most of my email is right. So my feelings are hurt of course that he basically said Im worthless. So he is kind of mad at me and wants to see me face to face to talk about the email and that I should have said all of that in person but I was so pissed and wanted to get my feelings out I sent him an email instead since I had to work all day that day. I dont want to talk to him in person today because I think I will feel worse than I did yesterday It really hurts to know that a guy thinks so little of me. He is also saying that he never said all of that and that Im making assumptions. Dont you agree that I interpreted his actions and words right? Edited January 4, 2010 by CoastalGirl spelling
mushmush Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Could be a player.. Or not, but I know alot of guys who do things off to lower a girls self esteme to reel them in. You did the right thing by expressing how you felt. Dont take it as a personal rejection, or that he think you are worthless. There is also no need to rush things either..Keep busy and keep living your own life. Wish I wasnt in a rutt right now so I could offer some better advice..
DustySaltus Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Why would you care about what he thinks at this point? I don't think there's anything left to be said. If you want a FWB continue what you are doing but I don't know how a healthy, meaningful relationship can evolve out of this situation. I've said it a million times, you cannot let someone else define who you are. There are a lot of good men out there for you, leave this one is the past.
Author CoastalGirl Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Thanks mushmush Im going to get over it and move on, I hope you get out of your rut soon!
Author CoastalGirl Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Thanks DustySaltus I dont give a darn what he thinks at this point and I even told him that I dont even want to meet with him today to talk about it, but he insists. I even told him from the beginning Im looking for a long term relationship and I didnt want to be FWB. I never have done that and never will. Yes Im on my quest to find just the man for me. It so hard though to find a good guy that actually has good intentions. So many men just want to have sex and arent looking for a meaningful relationship.
boogieboy Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 You absolutely interpreted his actions right. He didnt ask you about you, and doesnt ask you out, he's not into you as a person. He made it clear. So good for you, you were very observant, and if you dont want to be a FWB, you dont have to talk to him anymore...in fact you shouldnt.
Author CoastalGirl Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Hey your totally right and Im glad you said that because I just made up my mind not to see him today. I certainly dont need him feeding me any b.s lines. Thanks boogieboy!
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