b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I'm starting to this in quite a few female personal ads... For instance, I just read this: I get bored very easily so I have to move around, so hopefully you can keep my attention. Seems rather presumptuous...and kind of snobby. More like, "You better keep me a amused, or I'm outta here" Is this a red flag, more in the "getting bored very easily" can make "keeping her attention even harder? What are we, some kind of tour guide or court jester that has to keep her laughing? Usually someone that bores easily, would they be considered only short-term material and nothing long term?
Vertex Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Someone who is bored easily is likely a very boring person. Anyone who expects a three-ring circus every night to keep themselves amused is just not worth dating.
theBrokenMuse Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I'm starting to this in quite a few female personal ads... For instance, I just read this: I get bored very easily so I have to move around, so hopefully you can keep my attention. Seems rather presumptuous...and kind of snobby. More like, "You better keep me a amused, or I'm outta here" Is this a red flag, more in the "getting bored very easily" can make "keeping her attention even harder? What are we, some kind of tour guide or court jester that has to keep her laughing? Usually someone that bores easily, would they be considered only short-term material and nothing long term? IMO, it's stating that she is flighty, has no loyalty and will take off the second she feels the newness of the relationship wear off but rather than see that as a possible personality flaw of her own, puts the blame on the men, saying that they are just too dull to keep her interest.
Bejita463 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I don't mind that as much as the challenge "Do you think you have what it takes to handle me?" I wasn't aware I needed a lion tamer hat to go on a date, but hey.
Author b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 IMO, it's stating that she is flighty, has no loyalty and will take off the second she feels the newness of the relationship wear off but rather than see that as a possible personality flaw of her own, puts the blame on the men, saying that they are just too dull to keep her interest. Yeah, and I've seen this in a lot of profiles...the whole, "These men can't seem to keep my interest" line. or "I bore easily, please do something to keep me appeased" (How bout sex on the first date, would that keep you interested? I know it would me, .....j/k) Seriously, I wonder if it means all her relationships were short term?
JL911 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Ill go after this one...Its a defence tactic shes using...Maybe she is flighty, but that may be due to the guys she has dated in the past were less than credible characters... My current gf hasnt had a relationship longer than 3 months till me...She just invited me to a wedding in May so apparently shes planning on keeping me around awhile... Now she didnt really throw lines like that at me, but she did warn me in advance that her relationship past has been less than fantastic...Ive had periods where i was slightly insecure about how we were, but lately things have been extremely good and I have settled into things with her quite nicely... It might be worth a shot...you never know till you try...if you go it with an open mind and kind of let her dictate the pace you never know...
Author b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Ill go after this one...Its a defence tactic shes using...Maybe she is flighty, but that may be due to the guys she has dated in the past were less than credible characters... My current gf hasnt had a relationship longer than 3 months till me...She just invited me to a wedding in May so apparently shes planning on keeping me around awhile... Now she didnt really throw lines like that at me, but she did warn me in advance that her relationship past has been less than fantastic...Ive had periods where i was slightly insecure about how we were, but lately things have been extremely good and I have settled into things with her quite nicely... It might be worth a shot...you never know till you try...if you go it with an open mind and kind of let her dictate the pace you never know... I feel like asking her if one of her biggest faults is the fact she's easily bored.
betamanlet Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I'm starting to this in quite a few female personal ads... For instance, I just read this: I get bored very easily so I have to move around, so hopefully you can keep my attention. Seems rather presumptuous...and kind of snobby. More like, "You better keep me a amused, or I'm outta here" Is this a red flag, more in the "getting bored very easily" can make "keeping her attention even harder? What are we, some kind of tour guide or court jester that has to keep her laughing? Usually someone that bores easily, would they be considered only short-term material and nothing long term? Darn right that's a red flag. She's basically saying that you have to provide lots of drama or she moves on. A "relationship" with someone like that would be a nightmare unless you are a nightmare yourself.
threebyfate Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I don't mind that as much as the challenge "Do you think you have what it takes to handle me?" I wasn't aware I needed a lion tamer hat to go on a date, but hey.Don't forget the chair, whip and gun. Some of us are a handful. At least we're honest about it. As for the "keeping my attention" thing, none of these kinds of comments bother me. If anything, it would make me turn it around on a guy, if he did that, and ask him if he could keep my attention!
theBrokenMuse Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I bore easily, please do something to keep me appeased Sounds like they are a spoilt princess looking for a lacky rather than a relationship. Geez, do people actually think about these things before they write them?
sid3 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 She's done you a favor by telling you she is damaged goods. There's only one way to keep her interestd, treat her like dirt. I'd bet she'd be highly interested in the non stop drama.
Bejita463 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Don't forget the chair, whip and gun. I have both a whip, and a gun. Well, depending on how loosely you allow yourself to utilize slang. Wait, what?
Author b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Don't forget the chair, whip and gun. Some of us are a handful. At least we're honest about it. As for the "keeping my attention" thing, none of these kinds of comments bother me. If anything, it would make me turn it around on a guy, if he did that, and ask him if he could keep my attention! Actually, it might be pointless in turning it around and asking her that. She's in the entertainment industry. LOL
threebyfate Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Actually, it might be pointless in turning it around and asking her that. She's in the entertainment industry. LOLSo what? Being in the entertainment industry doesn't guarantee that she can hold anyone's attention. If she's an actor, who is she, underneath her personna?
Jersey Shortie Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Yeah, it sounds arrogant and like she expects the man to perform for her. If you are interested in her I would send her an email " You hope I can keep your attention? I hope *you* can keep mine." ..of course said playfully and hopefully making her rise to the challenge.
mushmush Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Good friend of mine is an actress. As hot as she is and as much fun as we have together I can only handle her in small doses. Extremly flighty, unreliable and self absorbed. Although she does have good morals and is loyal. If she ever wrote an online profile I could imagine her writing "can you keep my attention" eh what's my point? Well.... would i sleep with her?? yes.. could I see myself in a rationship with her.. hmmmm nope, but it would be alot of fun.
JL911 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 You really can take all the advice here with a grain of salt...Fact of the matter she could playfully be messing around with you in a sarcastic fashion and maybe playing off feelings for you by simply joking about a relationship.... Or she could be just high maintenance... I can speak from my own experience with my current lady simply by saying that she probaly has a rough past with less than great partners or fake and shady partners who put up a nice strong front and reverted to their true selves after some time went by. While maybe they were cool and fun at first, something about them wore off fast... So are you different than the rest? Are you putting up a front to get what you want then going to pull back or change? Do you have somewhat good intentions in dating this girl? I think maybe pulling back a touch would be a good idea...let her come to you and gauge her interest...
Author b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) Holy cow...and she's 6'2", she's taller than some male NBA players. She is cute though. *(sorry to go off topic, just somethign I've noticed) Edited January 4, 2010 by b52s
D-Jam Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Someone who is bored easily is likely a very boring person. Anyone who expects a three-ring circus every night to keep themselves amused is just not worth dating. +100 RLs are a two-way street. BOTH SIDES need to bring it all to the table.
carhill Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 OP, most women could leave their profile blank and just post a picture and have all the male contact they want. When a woman adds to that dynamic by posting up what are essentially negative words (no context for humor as of yet), believe them BTW, I've noted none of that attention whore verbiage as of yet in the 45-55 yo ladies profiles I've been looking at. Some actually write interesting and thoughtful profiles. Maybe, finally, it's my time
theBrokenMuse Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 You really can take all the advice here with a grain of salt...Fact of the matter she could playfully be messing around with you in a sarcastic fashion and maybe playing off feelings for you by simply joking about a relationship.... She's not talking to him, it's a personal's ad.
tami-chan Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I don't mind that as much as the challenge "Do you think you have what it takes to handle me?" I wasn't aware I needed a lion tamer hat to go on a date, but hey. LOL!..funny... Anyway, I agree with those who say she sounds flighty, spoiled brat-ish, and arrogant-definitely, a red flag!
Author b52s Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 I throw this into the same category as the, others that say in their HEADLINER: "Are you up to the challenge?" or "Looking for a challenge?" Get ready to have an intenerary of fun and games and other cool things on EVERY date you go on, and keep it in a MS Word document and print it out and bring with with you onyour date, and check things off as you go along. LOL
meerkat stew Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Things that people type in online dating profiles can give us hints as to why someone is not in a relationship, or they can just be poorly chosen words that tell us nothing about that person's character. For example, the woman in question may very well be a spoiled, privileged brat, or she may be someone who has had the misfortune of dating 5 very dull men in a row from the dating site. If the latter is the case, it is still a bad choice of wording for a dating profile, but we may cut her some slack in the red flag department. Such lines are usually a bad sign though. Takes some analysis of the rest of the profile, talking on the phone and meeting in person to know for sure.
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