canadaman111 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Waking up by myself is the most difficult part right now. Any progress I make during the day towards feeling better is lost each morning when I wake up alone. I want nothing more then to tell her how much I miss her and how much I love her. Though I know that these things don't mean anything to her at this point, and that telling her likely will just make me feel worse. I want her to come back so much. After reading on here I understand the only way to do that is to basiclly do what seems the hardest to do, not the easiest. Well it is about time to wake the kids drop them off at her house and go to work for another day of loneliness. wish me luck.........
Howitzer Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 canadaman, I know exactly what you're talking about. Waking up is the worst part of my day. Don't give in to your feelings. Steady yourself when you wake up. Look about the positives in your day There's time to dwell on the bad things later.
HeavenOrHell Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I know how it feels, 5 months since he left me.
soheartbroken Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Yes, mornings are still the worst for me, coming up to 6 months.
hopesndreams Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Perfectly acceptable and normal to feel this way. Have a good cry, let it out and take care of yourself.
Author canadaman111 Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Wow you guys still feel that way after 5 and 6 months. I can't imagine still feeling that way that far down the road. I was hoping this would be a couple of weeks thing. Yes this is my first break up.
sean1970 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Though I know that these things don't mean anything to her at this point, Matters not what she thinks. ..and that telling her likely will just make me feel worse. It will. Wow you guys still feel that way after 5 and 6 months. I can't imagine still feeling that way that far down the road. I was hoping this would be a couple of weeks thing. Yes this is my first break up. For most, it is not anywhere near as acute as it was or how you probably feel right now. However, many also find the wind knocked out of them when they least expect it months after the breakup/starting NC (holidays, birthdays, family crap). That is why its important to start working on you sooner than later; relying on yourself in such instances.
Template Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Yeah man, just proves to show that you are indeed a member of the human race. It sucks, and we've all been through it. I'm not going to lie to you, that this is the absolute worst you'll feel, because chances are, there will come a time when you'll actually feel worse. You are going to be in one hell of a roller coaster ride my friend, and they only advice I can give to to ride the ebb and flows. Don't fight it. Let the emotion flow - don't hold back (not in a destructive manner of course). As you can tell we are all survivors here on LS, and while it may not seem like it to you, there is indeed a light at the end of the tunnel. Just because you don't see it yet just means that the tunnel isn't straight. But it's there.
Howitzer Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Wow you guys still feel that way after 5 and 6 months. I can't imagine still feeling that way that far down the road. I was hoping this would be a couple of weeks thing. Yes this is my first break up. I hope you'll get over this quickly too, but I'd be surprised if this happened in only a few weeks. If it does happen to you that quickly, then power to you! Otherwise, don't be surprised if it lasts a few months, or more. Happens to other people, and they get over it.
scottishlassy Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I can sympathize. It's been 4 days since my husband walked out on me.
RedDevil66 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Cman how are you today? Mornings are bad, I know these sort of mornings all too well. It does pass, promise!
Author canadaman111 Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 This morning the shock of waking up alone wasn't as great. I still have to drop the kids off at her house though in a little bit.
SadKitty78 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I don't know why but mornings are the most difficult. It's been 5 days since the breakup and we didn't live together so it wasn't like he woke up next to each other everyday, but there are times throughout the day that I am almost ok, almost laughing, feeling almost ready to move on, and every morning, it's like a relapse. I have dreams about us being back together every night and I wake up in a panic, not able to breathe, feeling so alone, missing his touch, his smell - I feel like a piece of me has been taken away and I don't feel whole. I know it gets better as the day wears on, but the mornings, I hate the mornings.
GrayClouds Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 The rooster wants to cock-a-doodle-do when we rather he cock-a-doodler don't. Mornings can make you feel like you just ran a marathon in your birthday suite; feeling completely beat and exposed at the same time. The only comfort at time is knowing that with each morning you are one day closer to some place better. Hang in there.
Author canadaman111 Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 What a roller coaster. I feel bad today, after yesterday being a pretty good day. Having her over last night maybe contributed to how I this morning. I miss you so much honey!
Fitness Dude Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Mornings and evenings are tough on me too. I know how you feel, big time. It's been about 4 weeks of NC for me and it comes and goes. Just when I think it's getting better it hits me and takes the wind out of my sails, or worse. I've been thinking of breaking NC for the last few days b/c I feel like I have things I want to tell her but I know I can't. I feel like as the time passes we grow further apart from each other - that's so difficult to accept. It's sooooooo difficult at times and it's been almost 3 months.
Author canadaman111 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 Mornings and evenings are tough on me too. I know how you feel, big time. It's been about 4 weeks of NC for me and it comes and goes. Just when I think it's getting better it hits me and takes the wind out of my sails, or worse. I've been thinking of breaking NC for the last few days b/c I feel like I have things I want to tell her but I know I can't. I feel like as the time passes we grow further apart from each other - that's so difficult to accept. It's sooooooo difficult at times and it's been almost 3 months. If you still lope for a second chance you can't lest yourself grow further apart from her. I say make contact, see how you feel then. You may end up feeling worse, but then again you could get your love back.
Author canadaman111 Posted January 7, 2010 Author Posted January 7, 2010 This morning is bad. It has been almost a week since she has left. It is really starting to pile up on the boys and I. The boys miss having her here to tuck them in at night. It is so hard everynight when I put them to bed and there is nothing I can do to make up for her not being here to tuck them in. As much as I would like to share these things with her I know it would just sound desperate so I won't. Should I just let time make the boys feel better or should I talk to them about it? Or do you think I should talk to her since she is still part of there life?
GrayClouds Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Should I just let time make the boys feel better or should I talk to them about it? Or do you think I should talk to her since she is still part of there life? Talk to them or more important give them a opportunity to talk. Keep it appropriate and not negative. Acknowledge the reality and that things have change. Let them know your not going anywhere and tell them how deeply you love them. And be honest and keep it about you and them not mom except to acknowledge yes it does not appear mom will be coming back and that yes you all miss her but you all will be fine. Let them know your there for them, always willing to talk, may not always have answers. And again assure them how much you love them and be strong for them, they need to see dad's strength and love.
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