jgs Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) Alright, so here's the deal... I'm a 20 year old dude and as corny as it sounds: when I want to be good at something, I want to be the best I can possibly be (and refuse to be anything less, so I basically become obsessed until I'm happy with my skill level)... Because of this, I buy and consume a metric ton of books. Like I literally have well over 100 books on business, marketing, sales, etc (that's how I built my company)... So if you come into my apartment and decide to check out my library, you're going to find books about personal development, spirituality, psychology, communication, health and fitness, business, marketing, sales, etc... but... What would your reaction be if you saw like 27 books about sex and a bunch about relationships, dating, etc? What would you be thinking? Like, "this dude is awesome, he wants to please the chicks he's with" or "this dude is a complete freak, get me out of here...", or somewhere in between? Or would you just not care at all? I haven't grabbed these books yet but I probably will and I'm curious how you would react in that situation. Thanks in advance - you guys rock. P.S. If it makes a difference, I'm not some weirdo pocket-protector style nerd or anything... I'm like the athletic type mixed with the love for learning and mastering stuff. Edited January 4, 2010 by jgs
tami-chan Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I would think you are a guy who really likes to read books....but, the self-help books would make me wonder why you need them?
SOLACEMENT Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I think its hot...it is a good thing to try improve yourself...but thats just how I see it
Author jgs Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Thanks for the replies! I would think you are a guy who really likes to read books....but, the self-help books would make me wonder why you need them? If it makes a difference, the ones I have aren't really like "how to cure depression" style (not that there's anything wrong with those)... They're more centered around philosophies about succeeding and achieving whatever you want in life, time management, human behavior, effective learning strategies, speed reading, etc. Thanks again!
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 OMG...I'm a TOTAL book nerd. I LOOOOOOOVE books. Love reading them, collecting them, etc. Barnes & Noble gives me instant girl hard-on when I walk in there. I can get lost in there for HOURS. And I look at any/all kinds of books. I own a ton of books. I have to keep buying bookshelves because of them. LOL I'd have more if I hadn't done so much freaking moving. OK...so you understand that I am a book geek. I would think it's cool and very renaissance man. I adore a lifelong love of learning in general, but would think it's very cool if a guy had done that kind of searching - to figure out the best way to be a good partner.
babycakes62 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Honestly, books are good, I have well over 500 myself and a self help book or 2 wouldn't be a red flag, however seeing too many self help and relationship books may cause a woman to wonder why you need them so badly. Also most of the time those books are lame and contradict one another. She may also see you as needy, lacking self confidence or very inexperienced in romantic relationships. I'm not saying those things are true just that people tend to form judegments rather quickly and often analyze situations without many facts.
temple Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 When I go to someone's house I always like to look at what's on their bookshelf - I think it really shows me what kind of person they are and how they think and feel. A book collection is very personal and no two will be the same. That said, not all 'avid book reader' are compatible with each other. If I saw someone with a lot of self-help books I'd probably feel rather deflated and would probably think you're constantly on the look out for quick and easy, cut and dry, step-by-step plans to solving all your problems. So I agree with babycakes on this one. Switch these books for some truly great works of literature - you find the best advice in these texts, not in books written by some MBA fresh out of Management school.
Awesome Username Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I would see it as trying to earn the air you breathe because you lack confidence in yourself without the crutches of looking intellectual. I would be afraid that you would be the type of guy that wouldn't be satisfied unless I had at least three orgasms. I would have to fake multiple orgasms just so you could feel worthy, and tell your friends that you gave me ten. It could be completely untrue, but that's what I would assume if I saw so many sex books if they were out in the open. I too read a lot of books and have some sex books, but I don't leave them out in the open. I wouldn't want to bring home a guy and have him immediately know what a freak I could be, ya know? My honest opinion is that you should cut down on the initial visibility of the sex books. There's nothing wrong with reading them, but it's a strange first sight to any sane woman.
deux ex machina Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 OMG...I'm a TOTAL book nerd. I LOOOOOOOVE books. Love reading them, collecting them, etc. Barnes & Noble gives me instant girl hard-on when I walk in there. haha I can get lost in there for HOURS. And I look at any/all kinds of books. I own a ton of books. I have to keep buying bookshelves because of them. LOL I'd have more if I hadn't done so much freaking moving. OK...so you understand that I am a book geek. I would think it's cool and very renaissance man. I adore a lifelong love of learning in general, but would think it's very cool if a guy had done that kind of searching - to figure out the best way to be a good partner. I love it, as well. As far as the human behavior, philosophy books, learning, ect. go? Great. Dating, relationships? Keep those elsewhere for awhile. I really think there is some reading material that is more personal than others. You can always share them later.
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