puppydog Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) Ok, so got out of a 3yr 8month relationship which ended in late October/early November. I initiated the breakup, came back immediately, apologized profusely and asked to work it out, he said no (he was devastated) citing different reasons. I heard through the grape vines for the last several weeks that he's dating someone seriously already. I know guys cope differently than girls, but really? seriously? He said "I've moved on" when I called him in early December and was somewhat angry to be hearing from me. Is it humanly possible to move on and get over our relationship this quickly? It's only been 2 months since we broke up. Are guys wired this differently than girls? I really don't understand. The funny thing is, he's a very private guy and didn't tell anyone (much less his parents) that he was dating me for several months until we got really serious. It's been only a month, maybe a couple weeks since they've apparently started dating and pretty much everyone knows. I don't know... my friends have been saying that he's probably trying to send a message loud and clear that he doesn't need me in his life, has forgotten me, and is trying to hurt me... Any thoughts? To be honest, it does hurt, but I feel like he's being so childish and immature at the same time. After our breakup, even his close friends who have known him for awhile have been telling me that they thought it was good that we broke up because he was such a "selfish bastard" and that I could have done better. Sigh. I'm trying to move on and get over this, but news like this is not helping at all. There have been some really interesting/awesome guys who've shown much interest and I've been wanting to go on dates with them, but I feel like I need to heal completely before giving any one of these guys my attention. This really sucks. Edited January 4, 2010 by puppydog
McGrupp Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 u broke his heart. as a guy i wish i did the same instead of taking her back. deal with it
drew86 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 3 years and 8 months? He's not over the relationship yet, but he's coping with it by seeing someone else to keep him busy. Or maybe he was already looking for a way out before you initiated the break up? I suppose it would depend on what both your reasons were.
Author puppydog Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 I understand that you're just being bitter McGrupp. Seriously though, life happens. You meet a person, date them, and realize that they're not who you think they were. I'm actually thankful he didn't take me back. I didn't trust my decision/gut instinct to break it off with him and asked for a second chance because I was afraid to be alone/single at the time. The longer I do NC, I realize that he's not the best fit for me and I hope my ex finds his happiness. I just felt like he was being retaliative and excessively cruel. Quite petty. I'll deal with it, but really...was your comment necessary?
wowIlose Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Excuse me if this sounds rude, but you broke it off and he can do whatever the hell he wants. Perhaps you thought he would come begging and pleading but he didn't, tough luck. You made your decision and now you have to deal with it. I am with McGrupp on this one... sorry.
Howitzer Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 3 years and 8 months? He's not over the relationship yet, but he's coping with it by seeing someone else to keep him busy. Or maybe he was already looking for a way out before you initiated the break up? I suppose it would depend on what both your reasons were. He's definitely coping. My first thoughts after a few days were to find a new girl to make me happy. Not the smartest thing to do...but I needed to feel close to someone.
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