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Hello everyone~I need some help!

 

Me and my ex boyfriend went out for 3 years well we broke up earlier this year and I moved to New York with my sister in March It was not a good break up-he yelled, cursed, talked down on me bc I moved afterwards (I just couldnt take the heartache) We had NC up until June, we talked for a week (I started think we was going to get bk together) and he told me that would NEVER happen. So we stopped talking again. November we started talking again for another week and then stopped again until NOW!

 

Mind you he is great friends with my family and they always invite him over. Well I came home for Christmas and he came over as well to hang out w my fam for Xmas! I was so happy! Well after Christmas I called him and he acted like he didnt want to talk to me. WTH! So the next day I called him and said well whats going on?? He said he didnt want to be cool with me like that and that no we would never be together..I asked him WHY and why did he hang out-he said he loves my family and that he LOVES me too! I told him I loved him. and then he said he doesnt want to b with me AGAIN and that its only natural for him to still have feelings because you just cant turn them off it takes time, but I am not right for him. So we hung up.

 

The next day I text him and he is being reciprical..he told me he LOVED me again and even came over for New Years to hang out with my family but he also told me he would NEVER BE WITH ME AGAIN! (I also know he is currently seeing someone-that he used to see before me and during me (our breakups) she is his bestfriend)

 

Why do you think he hangs out with my family if he doesnt want to be with me?? Why does he still tell me he loves me and then says he doesnt want to be with me?? Help!!

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Why do you think he hangs out with my family if he doesnt want to be with me??

the real question you should be asking yourself is why haven't you told your family to stop welcoming him into their home when you're not even a couple anymore

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the real question you should be asking yourself is why haven't you told your family to stop welcoming him into their home when you're not even a couple anymore

 

Well they actually had a friendship with him before I started seeing him. My sister went to school with him and the same age. I am five years younger than her. So they have sustained their friendship.

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no one has any advice? :-(

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Well he has let you know that he does not want to see you and so be it. I would ask him to stop coming over to the home of your family and I would as the same of the family. If your family wants to see him they can go to his home or out somewhere else. I would not have any further contact with him and go on with my own life.

 

I don't think the issue is what his perceptions are and trying to figure them out. It doesn't matter why he is doing what he is doing....but he is. I would move on and leave him in the past where he chooses to be.

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(I started think we was going to get bk together) and he told me that would NEVER happen.

 

He said he didnt want to be cool with me like that and that no we would never be together

 

and then he said he doesnt want to b with me AGAIN

 

but he also told me he would NEVER BE WITH ME AGAIN!

 

Geez. This would give me the hint.

 

I wouldn't be bothered with wondering why he is telling you he loves you. He obviously doesn't want to be with you, and that's all that matters.

 

Go out and live your life. Stop worrying about this guy. It's a waste of time and effort.

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