emp Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 She left me for someone else in november... I went NC, she came back on xmas eve saying she misses me, and that she doesnt know what to do with her rebound. Spoke to her on xmas, Boxing day she came round to see me, left her rebound because he kissed his ex, sent a text message to her saying he wouldnt let anything happen to her. He treated my ex badly, argued alot, spent money to go out with a friend instead of buying her a xmas gift/ card. So anyway, on boxing day she was all over me, told me she loved me, and that by being with him made her realise how much she needed me. And she wanted to work things out with us. We met again the next day, same thing happened. Then the day after that, she goes and meets her rebound, and gets back together with him, despite all the crap hes done. NC worked once in showing her she misses me, will it work again in the same way? Ive gone back to NC anyway, im hoping the same thing happens again, but ill be way more cautious in letting her near me, without knowing for sure she wanted it. If it doesnt work in the same way, atleast ill start healing.
Author emp Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 I didnt do much wrong in the relationship, but in hindsight i was slightly clingy, and we didnt have the right balance between friends/ each other .. I went NC 3 days ago, but broke it today when she compared me to her rebound, I said how is what ive done anywhere close to cheating, she then said its not a competition, whos done worse. I then sent her a message detailing how shes changed as a person, She really has, taking drugs to make things better, Lying, and she certainly didnt take any rubbish from me, its like shes let herself go. And that i wouldnt be able to forgive the new person shes become, and only when shes fixed her ways would i contemplate it.
DenverBachelor Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 We met again the next day, same thing happened. Then the day after that, she goes and meets her rebound, and gets back together with him, despite all the crap hes done. NC worked once in showing her she misses me, will it work again in the same way? Listen. She's treating you like reheated mashed potatoes on the back burner while she goes back to the main course. Don't let her treat you like that. Have some self respect for who you are and what you are as a man and find another woman who isn't so fickle and fleeting. Of course she could come back, but she'll leave you again once the steak in the stove is ready. You're better than her and better than that -- so kick her ass to the curb and if she contacts you again, tell her to go pound sand.
DenverBachelor Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I didnt do much wrong in the relationship, but in hindsight i was slightly clingy Don't blame yourself for the failure of the relationship. She left you. If you think you were clingy, figure out why and don't repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship (which will be better than this one, trust me).
trueblue72ny Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 my suggestion to you is find another girl friend because i think the same thing is just going to happen with this one- her leaving. sorry to say. she left you once, twice, want to make it three times? find someone that is worthy of your time, that wants to be around and values you. not plays games and runs off. talks trash about the guy she dumped you for then runs back to him. whats up with that? whats she saying about you to him? you know that is not cool. you know you are not happy with that. you want a woman who is going to be there for you. you dont want to have to guess if she is going to be around next week or next month. you want someone you can depend on. someone you can trust. how can you trust this girl? you let her back in the same thing is just going to happen. do yourself a favor.... just my two cents.
confusionstate Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 ditch her. you miss her, yes i know. the fact that shes done this more than once blatantly shows that she doesn't know what she wants....more importantly, she doesn't respect you. without all the sugar coating, its like you are her backup plan. When her current fling doesn't work out, she comes back to you so that she won't get lonely. Red flags everywhere. You can do much, much better.
bluestraps Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Forget all the rest, the five letter word..... DRUGS That's all you need to figure this out
meonly Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Take your two legs and run just like you have a tsunami behind you.
LisaUk Posted January 9, 2010 Posted January 9, 2010 Don't blame yourself for the failure of the relationship. She left you. If you think you were clingy, figure out why and don't repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship (which will be better than this one, trust me). You think you were clingy? I wonder why? Because you subconsciously picked up on the fact that she is a flake maybe? I seriously don't think you have the problem here, you sound like a nice guy, I know you care about this girl but honestly you can do so much better.
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