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As you might have saw in my other thread about asking her out.

 

So at work today I went and talked to her. I asked if she had a boyfriend and she said same thing, said been seeing him for 4 years I told her I was wondering because I really like you and she said thanks, thats really nice of you, but sorry.

 

So she was right all along the person I asked cause she told me her bf name as well.

 

this sucks! I get denied again. Everytime I asked a hot chick out they have a boyfriend.

 

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this sucks! I get denied again. Everytime I asked a hot chick out they have a boyfriend.

 

 

keep plugging away. work on the percentages. its finding the one who has a window of opportunity when they are not in an relationship but ready to start a new one. It can be about being there at the right time.

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Everytime I asked a hot chick out they have a boyfriend.

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yes, good looking broads have no problem finding men

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keep plugging away. work on the percentages. its finding the one who has a window of opportunity when they are not in an relationship but ready to start a new one. It can be about being there at the right time.

 

this sucks. Over the summer I asked one of the hottest chicks Ive ever seen out and she had a bf too, although I did get her number though!

 

Then last spring the usher at the hockey game complained about me cause I hitted on her.

 

Im hopeless.

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maybe you should ask average looking chicks out

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maybe you should ask average looking chicks out

 

But Im not ugly looking.

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But Im not ugly looking.

so why are you getting blown off by all the hot chicks?

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One goal! Long time no see buddy. Back to troll the boards again, eh?

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One goal! Long time no see buddy. Back to troll the boards again, eh?

 

Im not trolling I really do like the girl at work.

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:rolleyes: This is how your threads go:

 

You're interested in someone, but you don't know what to say or how to ask her out...

 

People take time to give legitimate advice, which you ignore, say didn't work or just keep asking followup questions every few hours once the thread has gone farther down the page...

 

Eventually, the thread deteriorates into people saying you're clueless and/or a stalker...

 

You disappear for a while then the cycle repeats.

 

I realize I'm being a dick more than anything, and I could just ignore the threads, but for some reason they just annoy the hell out of me. If you're not a troll how come you never, ever contribute advice to anybody else?

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:rolleyes: This is how your threads go:

 

You're interested in someone, but you don't know what to say or how to ask her out...

 

People take time to give legitimate advice, which you ignore, say didn't work or just keep asking followup questions every few hours once the thread has gone farther down the page...

 

Eventually, the thread deteriorates into people saying you're clueless and/or a stalker...

 

You disappear for a while then the cycle repeats.

 

I realize I'm being a dick more than anything, and I could just ignore the threads, but for some reason they just annoy the hell out of me. If you're not a troll how come you never, ever contribute advice to anybody else?

 

But I did follow the advice and directly talked to her today.

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Youre not talking to enough women.

PinkToes Established Member

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And you need to talk to them before you've got stuff built up in your head about them. That will make it a lot easier to strike up a conversation.

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And you need to talk to them before you've got stuff built up in your head about them. That will make it a lot easier to strike up a conversation.

 

I mean ive worked with her for 6 months. Just took awhile to get the courage to tell her how I feel.

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I think it's great that you talked to her, I really do. I know it wasn't easy. I'm just suggesting that you maybe get in the habit of talking to girls when you first meet them, before you have any sort of feelings for them. Then it will be easier to ask them out or let them know how you feel later on, because you'll have some sort of connection already.

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so why are you getting blown off by all the hot chicks?

Because he's a scary, scary stalker. :) Search "McPhee" in his posting history. Chicks can smell that ****. Or search "usher."

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I think it's great that you talked to her, I really do. I know it wasn't easy. I'm just suggesting that you maybe get in the habit of talking to girls when you first meet them, before you have any sort of feelings for them. Then it will be easier to ask them out or let them know how you feel later on, because you'll have some sort of connection already.

 

What you mean? ive been there 6 months. Someone else suggested I find things to complement her on. Since she knows how I feel about her now wouldn't that make it too obvious Im doing it just to try and hit on her?

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You are not getting rejected enough.

 

Keep asking . . . You only need one or a few yes'es and there are plenty of women out there.

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You are not getting rejected enough.

 

Keep asking . . . You only need one or a few yes'es and there are plenty of women out there.

 

 

But how do I get this one to like me more?

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Why don't you look for other women now? She's in a long term relationship, are you honestly going to wait indefinitely?

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OK, this is the point in the thread where things usually turn weird. You already found out from someone who knows that she had a boyfriend, but you still didn't get that this means "stay away..." and you were still unable to understand what that means, saying things like:

Im not stalking. I just want her to know how I feel about her.

 

Should I just ask her out to get it out of my system?

 

Then she told you directly that she had a boyfriend she had been with for a number of years, and told you "sorry". 99.99% of the population would understand that this means "no, I won't be interested, please don't pursue me..." but you continue with statements like:

 

But how do I get this one to like me more?

 

And now is the time in the thread when you will continue to "not get it" that it's time to back off, move away, and leave her alone.

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:rolleyes: This is how your threads go:

 

You're interested in someone, but you don't know what to say or how to ask her out...

 

People take time to give legitimate advice, which you ignore, say didn't work or just keep asking followup questions every few hours once the thread has gone farther down the page...

 

Eventually, the thread deteriorates into people saying you're clueless and/or a stalker...

 

You disappear for a while then the cycle repeats.

 

I realize I'm being a dick more than anything, and I could just ignore the threads, but for some reason they just annoy the hell out of me. If you're not a troll how come you never, ever contribute advice to anybody else?

 

 

Agreed.

 

It seems that way, I read the other thread, didn't think I had much to contribute so didn't.

 

She has a boyfriend, find someone that doesn't. You already knew before the approach, so you can't really feel rejected. It was bound to happen.

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Agreed.

 

It seems that way, I read the other thread, didn't think I had much to contribute so didn't.

 

She has a boyfriend, find someone that doesn't. You already knew before the approach, so you can't really feel rejected. It was bound to happen.

 

But every girl I ask has a bf, or doesnt want me.

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But every girl I ask has a bf, or doesnt want me.

 

 

Well then, you need to start being able to look for signals of the girls who DO want you, and who DON'T have a bf. Instead of doing the full on approach i.e I like you, in a creepy stalkery way, talk to the girl of interest. Find out what she likes, just start a general conversation. In this, you should be able to garner her interest levels, and then move forward.

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But every girl I ask has a bf, or doesnt want me.

Ask more girls... its not your fault (or the girls) that they are already in a relationship

 

You just need to get around more... and not build up relationships in your head... since all you would do is end up getting hurt...So live on the edge and approach more girls... you would find someone

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