annanguyen75 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Hi, I have just dated with a single doctor dad. He has a 5 year-old son. On the first date, I knew that he liked me a lot. And so did I. He told me about his ex and son. He kissed me. After listening to whatever he told me about his son, I worried about the child's development based on what I knew (I got BA in psychology - child development). I politely and sweetly give him some advice and told him what I felt for his son. Then, on the second date, he brought me to his apartment, we kissed. He is moving to a new place. And he told me how he will be busy in next couple months. Next day, he called and said he needs a space. And he said he will call me when he is not busy in next couple months and he needs to function himself. He got divorced 1 year ago. Now, I have to go on business for 5 months, should I call him and let him know? He said he did not want me to text-msg, e-mail, or call him. I need advice quickly because I am leaving soon. What should I do? should I call him and let him know? I am leaving for business while I am giving him space.
adamt Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 how can it work if you are away on business for 5 months and he needs space for a few months to sort himself out? is he that bothered about you if he is saying:- "And he said he will call me when he is not busy in next couple months","He said he did not want me to text-msg, e-mail, or call him." i would just leave him be, if he wants you he will contact you. If i like someone even under any circumstances i would not be saying dont text..etc i went on a first date recently and she was goign out of the country for a month, i said for her to contact me when she gets back if she wants to go out again. then i left it at that.
mammax3 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I agree. Don't contact him to let him know that you'll be away on business. After only 2 dates and he needs 'space' - I suspect he wasn't ready to earnestly begin dating right now. Have fun on your trip!
2sunny Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 sounds to me like he's separated, married, taken or uninterested. interested men don't set out those guidelines when they are interested in a gal, unless they are unavailable. let it go. follow his lead - he said no contact.
D-Lish Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Perhaps he took your advice about his child as offensive in some manner, perhaps he isn't ready to date, or perhaps he didn't want to start something with someone that is leaving for 5 months. Regardless, he obviously isn't interested. Nobody asks for space after 2 dates- it's a cowardly way of saying he doesn't want to see you anymore. I wouldn't contact him after he asked you not to.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I wouldn't tell him anything. There really wouldn't be a point.
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