cartierbenjamin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I have a question towards the females. I am a male who truly cares for a female. I'm not sure if I am doing to much. I send her flowers, suprise her with cupcakes at work, send encouring emails, but it seems like that isnt enough for her. I get the thank yous for the moment, but that is not what I want. It's moreso I want to show her how much I care. Like when I call her to see how she is doing, but she doesnt answer so I leave voicemails. She calls back hours later, but it feels like she is just returning the calls, but not checking up on how I'm doing. I don't know if I should fall back a little for her to realize who I am? She has told me she has messed with some bad guys before, but with me everything is fine. What is your advice ladies?
Author cartierbenjamin Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 I have known her for about a year. She wanted a relationship, but I told her be patient. I really liked her and she was the only one I was dealing with I was scared to get hurt thats why I wanted no title. I always treated her good. I do the stuff I do for her cause I care, but I think she may have gotten used to the way I treat her, so its the norm now for her. I dont want to leave her alone cause it may seem like I dont care about her. I did that beforet by ignoring her calls and she was furious. I really dont know what to do anymore?
JustLooking123 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Are you guys in a committed relationship now?
lordWilhelm Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Yes, good question. Are you officially in a relationship right now, because if you're not... then what do you expect? If you are in a relationship, you may want to give her a bit of space. Being overly nice all the time can start seeming fake after a while.
temple Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Step back and give her space. You're right, maybe she has just got used to your attention. The first time you do something for someone it is a surprise. The second, a favour. The third, an obligation. Don't become her doormat. It sounds like you're focussing all your attention on her when you should realise your own self-worth.
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